I recently decided to commit to upgrade one of my plates to LTR and let the others go. She had a n count of zero before me. My frame was of a guy who won't commit ever and she was aware of me sleeping with other women. I see some red flags:

  • She is sexually down for anything. No limits at all and always says stuff like 'I am willing to try new stuff'
  • I joked about a threesome and she said 'whatever you want'. Thjs is the same as above.
  • Damn weird porn preferences like NTR (mine are weird too but okay)
  • All this while she wanted me to stop seeing other girls and I finally gave in and made a joke about damn I would miss the variety a few days later. She said something along the lines of well you can do what you want - we can consider an open relationship if that would make you happy. Then she added that this is her first relationship so she doesn't know how it works. This seriously makes me think if she is just naive or absolutely retarded.

That's all I can see. The sex is regular and on demand. She puts in the work in dressing up - occasionally cooking for me etc and in general very submissive.

My main issue is that I have not really LTRed before and have always been a plate spinner. I thought I should continue sleeping with other girls but didn't really enjoy it that much once I did it.

Further reading all the stuff on asktrp has made me too paranoid tbh. I just can't seem to trust her (or anyone for that matter). How do I not be paranoid?

The stress from the above is making me not enjoy an otherwise happy LTR.