Advice for 17 year old

VasiliyZaitzev · 2019-09-14T13:55:55+00:00

So assuming your instrument is something like guitar/bass/drums/keys and not something gay (NTTAWWT) like accordion or French horn, you should be trying to meet up with other novice players, playing in basements and garages, and then becoming Nirvana.

And whatever you're doing, learn guitar also. Unless it is guitar. Because then you can do coffee houses and shit on your own.

FinancialThanks1 · 2019-09-14T14:23:19+00:00

Join more clubs, try more things. Talk to people/strangers/acquaintances more than you want to, more than you think is necessary, don’t be afraid of appearing weird. Everyone starting uni is is the same position and will be grateful that you are talking to them. If you find that doing all these things is getting in the way of your studies then you can dial it back if you want

TRP-Xquisite-Pain · 2019-09-14T14:23:52+00:00

Problems: no social life or friends.

You go to college, so it's not hard to make friends, especially if you go to a club.

If you don't know how to start, you can ask a classmate for something, like a pen, and when returning it, say something like: "That's a cool pen, where did you get it?". In other words, do small talk, that was just an example. Keep doing small talk with classmates until you get to a point where you are having deeper conversations, especially in the club. It's hard when you don't have too much social life/social anxiety, etc..

For meeting new people is 1 club enough? The study I’m doing is kinda hard

Yeah, it's enough if you seem like you have a hard time studying. If studying gets easier, join another.

Should I try to find something where I live or just move on and try to find things in the city I study

If you spend more time in the city you study, hang out more there.

Overall advice to get a better social life and be proud of myself?

Putting yourself out there and doing small things to get out of your "comfort zone" it's priceless. Don't try to push yourself too hard, remember it's a marathon, not a race to the finish line.

BajaGhia · 2019-09-14T15:56:24+00:00

Don't worry about the social stuff yet.

You are putting the cart before the horse.

Work on yourself, get fit, put on some muscle, spend the time to get good at your music.

It's much easier to make a great first impression with someone new than change an existing impression. You don't want to be known as, "I remember when he was a skinny punk that couldn't play a tune."

Most of your job is just to STFU, look good, and be cool.

And along the way you will learn how to be okay with being alone, because that's what most of life is, and you better be good at it.

jjj2576 · 2019-09-14T17:04:30+00:00

Lift— you don’t have a social life yet, so you absolutely have the time to go to the time.

Title	Advice for 17 year old
Author	IcyNote32
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Date	September 14, 2019 1:48 PM UTC (6 years ago)
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