I've been RP for a while now and have been mentoring my cousin since the summer of 2013. He was such a beta faggot before that I couldn't go without nudging him in the right direction. He is older (mid 30's) and more like a brother than a cousin, but he always looked up to me so we are more like friends than anything.

He was a beta but still had a handful of girlfriends and bangs in his life. Never been married and obviously has no kids. He is decent looking, has a good job, lots of friends, etc. His problem is that he was so beta and so nice he would drive off any woman that showed interest in him because he bought flowers, wrote gay ass poems, and I swear to god he once a couple years ago he went out and bought a girl he liked a $300 coat because she mentioned once that she wanted one so bad. That was when I couldnt take it and tried to slap some sense into him.

He's a reader and doesn't get on the internet much, so letting him borrow some of my books and telling him to read them was easy: No More Mr Nice Guy, Bang, Mystery Method, The Game, etc. He devoured them all and started applying RP truths.

Very shortly after reading the books and me mentoring him for a few months he got into a LTR. He insisted that he would rather be in a LTR than spin plates and he wanted to use his new knowledge to try and keep a girlfriend for longer than 5 months (his previous longest). It lasted longer than any before in his life (about a year and a half from late last summer until about 3 weeks ago). The girl is his age and has her good qualities: keeps fit by taking zumba like 4 or 5 nights a week, doesn't go to bars, and is close with her family. She also has some red flags. She has two kids: a son she had right out of high school to her high school sweetheart and a daughter to her last LTR that she was with for 8 years until about 2 years ago. She also never told him how many exactly, but she seemed to bring up exes a lot to him in casual conversation. It seemed like a whole lot to him, and was definitely Way more than him, but I told him most semi-attractive women are going to have way more exes than he would because he's a beta faggot. They also would get along good for a week or two, then she get pissed at him and not talk to him for a few days at a time for stupid reasons like he was doing something with his friends rather than her.

I told him she was probably not worth the headache of constantly fighting and breaking up and getting back together and he should just to move on, be he seemed to really like her and I have to admit the change in him was drastic and RP worked extremely well on her. He'd show me texts she sent him and the chick (seemed) to be head over heels for him for the most part. Told him she'd never loved anyone like this before and she wanted to be with him forever, she'd keep his clothes so she could wear them to bed and remind herself of him, that kind of shit. Then the next week she'd be pissed about something and wouldn't talk to him for two days. He held frame well, never caved, and she would always come back to him head over heels again.

Anyway, about 3 months ago she did that shit again where she said she was ignoring him for a couple of days and instead of ignoring it, he said he thought it was a good idea if they broke up because they weren't compatible. He said he mostly said that because he wanted her to see that he was serious about being done playing games. She boo hoo'd and begged him to take her back and he said they should cool down for a while and she was all about him again and this time she quit the dumb shit and they got along 100x better.

Well, they went 3 or 4 months without a label but were spending even more time together and acted like they were still together. So about 3 weeks ago she tells him they need to talk and she wanted to know where things were going. Long story short, they got into a fight, haven't talked since then, and now she has a new boyfriend. He thought it was going to be one of those things where she ignores him for a few days/weeks and they would go back to normal. He made the mistake of setting up a facebook to see what she's been up to. She had a picture of her and her kids and her new boyfriend on facebook. The dude lost it. He's been a mess ever since then and I cannot, for the life of me, get him to calm down. He's completely depressed, not eating, not going out. My aunt calls me every few days to see how he's doing because he won't tell her anything, and he comes over to my house EVERY FREAKING NIGHT NOW! I don't mind it because we're family and he's my best friend, but I know he just doesn't want to be alone.

I've told him that even though he's done great with ingesting the RP that he is still obviously finding his validation through women. I've tried to tell him that his worth is not in a woman, and this is all most likely happened because he may have went a little too hard in the alpha department with her and she found someone beta to pay attention to her. He's still pretty devestated and he has a history of depression, so the shit's got me worried.

It's been almost a month since they talked and he texted her last night saying he needed to see her to tell her something. She immediately said something like "I can't meet tonight my boyfriend is coming over" in her first text back to him. Needless to say he was crushed, but he played it cool and replied that he had a girlfriend and just needed to ask her something but wouldn't tell her what. She refused to meet him but said to call her the next day if it was important.

Now, she has no idea that he's shook up worse than I've ever seen him, and he played it cool from what he told me. Didn't say I love you or miss you, just said he told her he had something important to tell her and wouldn't tell her what it was. She kept prying and seems curious enough that she might meet him, or atleast talk on the phone.

My fear is that him seeing her is going to devastate him so much that he's going to go 100% beta niceguy wimp and start crying when he sees her and flip out then do God knows what to himself after. While he has done well with the RP, he is still that beta nice guy inside and gets so damn depressed that he scares the family. He's never tried to kill himself or anything like that, but I'd be a liar if I said I wasn't scared of it because he is so depressed right now.

So fellas, help a bro out: What can I do to help him realize he is not validated by a woman and this should not be bothering him that bad? He was 100% fine with not talking to her after their last fight when she said she wanted to see where they were going. Then when he found out she had a boyfriend he lost it. He even said if she didn't come back to him it would have been okay, but something about seeing that picture cut him really, really deep. I've tried everything possible: I preach to him that he is a good dude and there are billions of other women in the world, that this chick was a 30 something single mom of two who drank at home 5 nights a week and played games with him and wasn't worth it in the first place, and I even motivated him to go out with me the other night and he got a number and went out with another chick, but he said the date was awful all he could think about was his ex.

So, any advice on what I can do here? I think he should go to a shrink, honestly. I thought for sure he was over this kind of depression, but this must have triggered old hurtful memories from the past or something because he sure took it as hard as I've ever seen him take anything.

Dude is like my brother and I've felt like telling that bitch off, but I don't want to get in the middle of it. I want to help him and he is a good dude with a good heart who did everything society told him to do with women and always got shit on. Kills me to see him like this but I don't know what I can do.

Sorry for the novel, but this kind of shit pisses me off. He was obviously not ready for an LTR yet, and I just want to see what I can do to gelp him. Maybe some of the more experienced guys like /u/bluepillprofessor can help me out here, because I am out of ideas.

Edit: Forgot to mention she has a good paying job, and I'm pretty sure she paid for things most of the time. Also, I just remembered he banged one of her co-workers once when they first started dating. I'm not sure why he is so fucked up right now???