How to stop contacting ex

mnchrme · 2020-09-18T23:06:35+00:00

Block Ignore Ghost. B.I.G. Also delete everything and focus on you. She’s probably out there fucking someone else already and gives zero fucks about you. Would you want to waste your time on that? I highly doubt it.

ThrowawayGYOW · 2020-09-19T00:37:36+00:00

Story Time:

I was sad while talking to a friend once and saying things like "what if she contacts me" and he abruptly asked me to see my phone. I proceeded to bitch and complain some more.

When he gave the phone back, I asked him why he was being a dick and not paying attention... What he was actually doing was blocking her on IG, FB, Linkedin, Snapchat, and deleting her phone number off my phone.

IT WAS THE BEST THING ANYONE'S EVER DONE FOR ME.

I got mad at first because I thought, "wtf dude now it looks like it really effected me and it makes me look bad" and some other people i spoke to agreed. But hindsight being 20/20, he was 100% right to do it.

tacticalinfernape · 2020-09-18T23:35:49+00:00

[deleted]

Rvin16 · 2020-09-19T02:10:37+00:00

She doesn't give a shit about you, why should you? Focus on a hobbie or a life goal that realistic. I started getting into collecting snkrs.

The only she would contact you is when you become a better person for her to live of off. My ex already got her karma (she cheated on me and now she got cheated on)

Find your purpose

Also delete social media and go AWAL. Ppl will notice once you improve your inner self

derpitaway · 2020-09-19T05:59:21+00:00

Change your number and delete the contact.

anon_likes_tendies · 2020-09-18T23:21:03+00:00

Block. Posthaste

XGHOW · 2020-09-18T23:25:26+00:00

White knuckle this shit until you’re in a place where you’ve actually built some meaningfulness and purpose in your life.

jdutches13 · 2020-09-19T02:55:29+00:00

Ok so I have a good amount of experience in this. This is what's worked for me

First, no matter what she says DO NOT REPLY. Dont text her back if she texts first. DO NOT text her first. And dont pick up the phone when she calls......if you reach out to her you're acting like a beta bitch. Not being harsh just being honest. If she texts first and you dont reply ...you're winning. But this isnt about winning. This is about healing and being the best version of yourself

You're probably an emotional basket case....I know I was. Journal your thoughts. Sounds stupid I know but it works. Reach out to MALE friends and dump your emotional shit on them. You need to vent and talk to someone, but under no circumstances do you vent and Express your feelings to your ex or any woman for that matter....not even your own mother. But I fall short of this....I'm a mommas boy.

Lift fucking weights, or run. Running is the best medicine for anxiety and depression. Channel your energy into something good....stay busy. Work more, engage in your hobbies.

Dont post anything on social media. Dont post some sappy love lost bullshit in Hope's she reads it. For one this shows everyone your a weak bitch, secondly it shows your ex you're in pain and you're beta. I wouldnt even post positive stuff either......disengage from social media

Fucking pray to get over it. Meditate. Write your thoughts down. Anything you want to text her write it down on paper and go to town......

You gotta give time some time. But I can promise you, if you respond to her or reach out to her youre only causing yourself more pain

Approach other women, and fuck some different girls....but dont rush into fucking other girls. You want to heal yourself internally first. This is an inside job...but I think approaching other women and talking to other women can really broaden your perspective

No-Department-5356 · 2020-09-18T22:43:31+00:00

Say the worst possible things to ever expose her for who she is.

Women hate being exposed more than anything.

PrestigiousGreen3 · 2020-09-18T23:41:10+00:00

Same principle as telling an overweight person to not eat. Have self control. Remember she's an x factor. The proof being she's your EX wife

learnfemalenature · 2020-09-19T01:23:13+00:00

Why would you want to contact someone who doesn’t feel the same way about you?

TruePolarWanderer · 2020-09-19T04:52:46+00:00

don't put all that pressure on your self to do all those things at once it's too much. I'd start with quitting gambling and stop calling your ex. With a focus on not calling your ex.

Eat well brother take care of yourself

LegendKnight094 · 2020-09-19T08:33:27+00:00

Go ghost, man. Try putting yourself in a mindset in which you forget she even exists.

someevilwhitemen · 2020-09-19T09:11:47+00:00

two important things you need to realize:

no matter how strong you are or wanna be you need grief, that's life when you let your feelings get involved

2)that shit takes time and resilience and time will be your best friends, dont give up or be discourage because you can do all at the same time or you cant just fix it in a day

i think you clearly have an addiction problem,its not about her she is just a vagina in an an ocean of vagina, you need to self reflect to understand where it comes from and where the problem lies with you, have the courage to face your weakness

after that you also have to fight the brain addiction, but you cant do that effectively and for good if you dont fix the core issue of it

ttjjdd · 2020-09-19T11:05:02+00:00

How long has it been?

it's understandable if a little over a week or two. Like everyone advised, block her or delete your current social accounts and recrate a new one.

toxicgreencapsules · 2020-09-19T15:44:53+00:00

Recognise that YOUR INSTINCTS DOES NOT GIVE A GOD DAMN FUCK ABOUT YOU.

It just wants to reestablish bonds with your ex, in order to create new offspring; and fires off happy chemicals and neurons in your brain, to hijack your mind into having the urge to get her back.

It appears that you are also susceptible to addictive habits, which need to be addressed and controlled.

Wipe all contacts.
Distract your mind, by doing other activities such as exercise, hobbies, learning, practising and working.

Whulfz0r · 2020-09-19T15:52:27+00:00

Take hand that was going to contact ex
Clench hand into fist
Punch self in face
Associate pain with ex
Avoid this pain and move forward

CurrentCry3 · 2020-09-19T16:25:24+00:00

just jerk off

Lostfate09 · 2020-09-19T16:28:19+00:00

Take it day by day. It gets easier.

A man of value doesn't chase people who don't want him.

weebs86 · 2020-09-19T18:06:57+00:00

A lot easier to say than do but make simple goals.

Clearly, you know contacting her will lead to the same results you received in the past. You know not contacting her is probably for the best. How long can you go without contacting her?

A simple goal is when you feel the urge to reach out to her and text/call wait 15 minutes to do so...just 15 minutes. Watch another youtube clip, fap to something, or go for a walk...etc. Do something to distract you. After the 15 minutes write down what you were going to send to her or text it out but dont send. Wait some time and then think of why you are sending it and wish to receive back. Chances are that urge to reach out will be less intense. It might be there still lingering but it won't be all encompassing as the first urge. You may still end up reaching out or some other impulsive action with her but notice the sensations/feelings and rush with it all.

HipsterSamuraiJack · 2020-09-19T23:21:34+00:00

My goals: Quit drinking Quit alcohol

Was one of your past goal to also skip grade school?

Title	How to stop contacting ex
Author	Budget_Friend
Upvotes	17
Comments	22
Date	September 18, 2020 10:40 PM UTC (5 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/MGTOW
Original Link	https://old.reddit.com/r/MGTOW/comments/ivgbjy/how_to_stop_contacting_ex/
Archive Link	https://theredarchive.com/r/MGTOW/how-to-stop-contacting-ex.267666 https://theredarchive.com/post/267666

Comments