Tinder date canceled 2 hours before date, but suggested another date. What’s the next step that won’t make me look desperate?

Leonardslemons · 2020-10-01T23:37:05+00:00

Don't worry about "winning the battle", trying to "get laid", or "looking desperate". It implies that you have control over whether or not she sleeps with you.

You don't, not unless you're bigger than her ;)

What you do have control over is deciding whether or not your behaviour is consistent with your values.

Here are some facts.

The first date you made with her, she canceled on, she said she canceled because she had a bad day. Doesn't even sound like she apologized.

You told her that you were busy tomorrow. Best thing we can assume here, is that she forgot.

Based on this dude, it doesn't sound like she's all that respectful of your time, or excited to see you. Then again, its an assumption, so don't be so quick to judge.

If your still free Sunday , I'd let her know that your still free Sunday, and if she wants to try again, then, cool. However, and I would keep this to yourself, if any new plans come up Sunday, id flake on this chick.

MMFOOD_ · 2020-10-01T23:16:49+00:00

cancelling 2 hours before is disrespectful. Say you are busy tomorrow and set up a date later on next week or nothing at all

catz123456 · 2020-10-01T23:32:42+00:00

Definitely say you're busy tomorrow. Don't make it seem like you got your weekend open for her.

TeddyMGTOW · 2020-10-02T00:05:10+00:00

I've had this happen 15 mins b4 a meeting, maybe it was legit excuse maybe not. She text me later in the week to try to meet again. This is how I played it. I said your are unreliable, if you want to meet you can come to my place to tonight at 7pm. So balked a little, but it was a take it or leave it deal. Turned out to be a zero date bang, best case.

Psychological_Radish · 2020-10-01T23:36:49+00:00

I just want to put this out there - of all the girls I've ever fucked, I think I've only had one cancel the first date. In that case, I told her to let me know when she was free. She hit me up the next day and we met that same afternoon.

Given how excruciatingly lame her excuse was, I don't think I would bother. But that's up to you.

2020-10-01T23:52:28+00:00

Don’t agree to meeting her tomorrow. Posit another day after the weekend when you are free and would be convenient to meet her. If she flakes again, ghost her.

She’s going to have to work very hard to prove she is worth the ball ache of seeing at all. Cancelling 2 hours before meeting you for a flakey reason shows she’s not really worth investing much time time or effort in.

Title	Tinder date canceled 2 hours before date, but suggested another date. What’s the next step that won’t make me look desperate?
Author	__TheDon__
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Date	October 1, 2020 11:11 PM UTC (5 years ago)
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