Q4M: Men of PPD, how hard was it to get your current SO to commit to you?

[deleted] · 2016-02-07T02:12:54+00:00

Men of PPD, how hard was it to get your current SO to commit to you?

It wasn't

How long did you date before clarifying exclusive commitment?

Like a month

Did you have sex first?

No, she wanted to wait until she got married, but changed her mind 5? months in

Was it you who pushed for commitment or was it her?

I didn't have to convince her

Is she significantly more or less attractive than you, or approximately the same?

I'm probably more attractive than her, but she is just my type

How old are both of you?

I'm 19, she is 18 and a year below me in school

In your experience, is it harder to get purely sex from a worthwhile girl, or commitment?

Sex takes longer to get

cxj · 2016-02-08T01:29:10+00:00

No SO, but every time I've had a GF we've fucked like the same day we met, then kept at it, and she was either bothering me about commitment or I figured she wouldn't keep banging me if I didn't wife her up and she had a fun personality. At no point have I ever thought, even for a second, that any girl I was with in literally any capacity was someone I'd want to spend the rest of my life with. I always referred to them as "temp wives" in my mind, and sometimes out loud lol.

[deleted] · 2016-02-08T18:24:44+00:00

Late reply but there's not many responses so thought I'd drop one in.

How long did you date before clarifying exclusive commitment?

We first started talking online, we met IRL after a few months, and after that first meeting we decided we would pursue a serious relationship.

Did you have sex first?

Well she gave me a blowjob first time we met if that counts.

Was it you who pushed for commitment or was it her?

Mutual.

Is she significantly more or less attractive than you, or approximately the same?

She thinks she's less attractive than me, I don't think so.

How old are both of you?

I'm 21 she's 18.

In your experience, is it harder to get purely sex from a worthwhile girl, or commitment?

Would be harder to get sex without commitment in most cases.

DrunkUpYourShut · 2016-02-08T22:15:51+00:00

Maybe two weeks.
We wanted to, but ended up not having a condom. So just kissing and cuddling and tickling and it ended with her falling asleep in my arms.
Neither of us pushed for commitment. We both wanted it.
She's amazingly beautiful. She keeps telling me I'm attractive and I've found it difficult to believe her. But we're probably approximately the same.
I'm in my early 30s, she's nearing it. When we met I was 21 (or 22? I don't remember..) and she was not.
I've never been interested in one nights stands, I've never wanted purely sex. So I can't speak for the difficulty as I have no basis for comparison.

GoldPilot · 2016-02-07T01:42:30+00:00

Not at all. I thought of us as friends, and she approached me for a relationship.

Edit: Forgot to answer the questions.

We were exclusive fairly immediately. We did not have sex beforehand. Commitment was implied from the start. I find her rather attractive, and I guess I'm average/passable. We're both 24. I think it's probably harder to get commitment.

MaK_Ultra · 2016-02-07T05:52:28+00:00

Almost a year

Yes that's how it started (an affair)

Pretty mutual but mostly me

I'd say I'm more attractive

Me 35 her 44

Commitment is harder for me as I have a reputation of going relationship to relationship and cheating

[deleted] · 2016-02-07T13:36:57+00:00

The majority of my relationships had the save pattern..

Had sex early on.

About the save level of attractiveness.

I've always been older, sometimes up to ten years.

There was never really any talk of commitment.. They just kept coming over, then next thing I knew they were practically moved in. Almost like all the stay dogs I ended up adopting

[deleted] · 2016-02-07T19:00:38+00:00

It seems to be the other way around. Men tend to be the gatekeepers of relationships.

Title	Q4M: Men of PPD, how hard was it to get your current SO to commit to you?
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Date	February 7, 2016 1:22 AM UTC (10 years ago)
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