What's the ideal number of plates to spin?

mitreddit · 2014-10-08T13:26:22+00:00

Do you really not know how stupid this is?

soylentblueissmurfs · 2014-10-08T13:57:13+00:00

Depends on your needs and free time. I'd say as long as you have more than one it's good because you act differently when you have options. This is if you're at all interested in spinning plates, if you're in a commited relationship keeping her interested is more complicated.

nicethingyoucanthave · 2014-10-08T13:58:16+00:00

"spinning plates" and "having more than one iron in the fire" is an admonishment against having unrealistic expectations about any one woman. It's actually a very positive thing that blue pillers should get behind. See, what blue pillers do (and by extension what they lead unsuspecting men to do) is to focus on one girl at a time.

Blue pill guy: sees a girl at some social function, or maybe in class. Fantasizes about her. Imagines that she's just the best thing ever. Over the course of weeks or months, finally works up the courage to ask her out. She says, "sure okay, whatever." He's over the moon. He plans every detail of the date. He literally loses sleep stressing over it. On the day of the special date, he texts her that he's looking forward to it. She doesn't respond for several hours, but then eventually she says she can't make it.

Texts her the next day, still hopeful. No response until the following day. She's still busy. This goes on for a while. Finally she tells him to leave her alone.

Blue pill guy meets a girl through friends. Fantasizes about her. Imagines that she's just the best thing ever. Over the course of weeks or months, finally works up the courage to ask her out. She has a boyfriend. He continues to crush on her for years.

Blue pill guy meets a girl through friends. Fantasizes about her. Imagines that she's just the best thing ever. Over the course of weeks or months, finally works up the courage to ask her out. She says, "sure okay, whatever." He's over the moon. He plans every detail of the date. He literally loses sleep stressing over it.

They go on the date. He shows her his quirky, nerdy, shyness. But he also shows her what a total gentlemen he can be. She tells him he's the best friend ever! Over the course of months or years, they continue being "friends" with him buying her stuff and helping her move. They never so much as kiss.

Red pill guy: sees a girl at some social function, or maybe in class. He says hi to her that day. He tells her about what he's doing that weekend and invites her along. She says "sure okay, whatever." Then he forgets all about her. He goes to another social function and chats up other women.

Red pill guy understands that most women are going to flake on him, or they're going to "better deal" him (meaning, they'll hang out but if something better comes along, they wont show up). He doesn't care. It doesn't bother him anymore than water being wet bothers him.

Some girl texts him Saturday and says she can't make it. She's really sorry. He replies, "lame!" He isn't remotely bothered. Another girl texts to confirm that she's in. He hangs out with her. He attempts to make something sexual happen. Maybe she's into him, in which case they fuck. Maybe she's not, in which case he doesn't care.

Red pill guy meets a girl through friends. At the very first opportunity, he asks her out. She has a boyfriend. He says, "that's cool" and thinks no more of it. Later, when she breaks up with the boyfriend, she considers going out with him because she remembers him as someone who was interested in her.

Red pill guy meets a girl through friends. At the very first opportunity, he asks her out. When they go out, he remains somewhat aloof and distant, he teases her appropriately, and he unambiguously communicates his sexual interest. If she's into him, they fuck, if not, he doesn't care.

If they decide to be friends, he holds her to the same standard he would hold a guy friend - if she asks for a favor, he says "sure, just buy me a beer" or something like that. He doesn't let her take advantage of him, and he doesn't harbor unrealistic fantasies about her.

This is what spinning plates means, and it's a much more healthy and positive approach to relationships in 2014 than any advice that any blue piller has ever given.

Title	What's the ideal number of plates to spin?
Author	mitreddit
Upvotes	1
Comments	11
Date	October 8, 2014 1:19 PM UTC (11 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/PurplePillDebate
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