New to uni and been to a few parties and kickbacks how am I supposed to behave here?

madfox99 · 2020-08-25T06:50:48+00:00

Only approach something that can get your johnson at attention. You're wasting your time otherwise. It's not actual practice.

Practice is going after that ten you internally put on a pedestal that gets the heart beat going. Do it enough and you'll realize they are all the same and not as out of reach as you thought. You'll master yourself. That's the whole point. Then you can approach anyone, anywhere. You're wasting your time right now.

michael1962-01 · 2020-08-25T06:54:29+00:00

Read the sidebar.

Only talk or aproach a women you want to fu$$.

Leonardslemons · 2020-08-25T06:05:36+00:00

Why are you trying to pick up girls you have no interest in?

That doesn't really make sense to me. It sounds like your lying to yourself here, or you are using women for validation...

Whichever way you spin it, it sounds like an insecurity to me. That's okay, everyone has insecurities or has had insecurities before. The point is, it seems like you feel like you've got something to prove.

Probably need to take a look at your behaviour at those parties if girls are being bitchy to you. They probably have a reason for it.

I imagine it would have something to do with giving off a douchey vibe, like someone who tries to hard. Maybe speaking over people, not listening, anything within that vein. People who got something to prove, need to get people to like them, quick, they are impatient about getting to know people.

Don't get me wrong man, not trying to shit on you. I've been guilty of it in the past. Just sometimes its a lack of awareness that drives that behaviour.

KirthWGersen · 2020-08-25T07:39:53+00:00

You are making a good start by having fun. That should be the main point. Enjoy yourself, don't make hooking up your aim, and every night can be a great night.

Don't "approach"; instead, talk to everyone. That way it won't seem odd for someone to talk to you. And it will leave them wondering if you really like them or are just being friendly. That will make them want to find out and prove they are good enough.

When you meet someone you want to hook up with get some alone time with them and escalate physically (touch her arm, shoulder, hand and, if she welcomes the touch, start to go further).

A lot of girls don't want to hook up in public, especially in a new social situation like uni. They have their reputation to protect.

So relax, don't rush things. Arrange to meet the following day to "go for a walk" or do something fun and end up back at your place. Give her plausible deniability and privacy.

Title	New to uni and been to a few parties and kickbacks how am I supposed to behave here?
Author	prttrp
Upvotes	1
Comments	8
Date	August 25, 2020 4:56 AM UTC (5 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/askTRP
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