21M broke up with what I believed was the love of my life (LTR of 3 years), trying to avoid depression

MindlessCalendar · 2019-09-23T14:27:19+00:00

I don't believe I'll ever get over her

You will. You're not the first person in the world to be dumped and you won't be the last. She's not special. Like you said yourself, she was your first love. You don't even know what women are like yet to say she is special.

Advice: it's great that you've been going to the gym already. It's okay to grief. Read ''Getting over a breakup" and "There's this one girl..." in the sidebar (again). If you haven't read the rest of the sidebar, read it. Also google and read the red pill handbook 2nd edition pdf if you haven't already. Then start thinking about what you want in life. Set your goals, figure out your mission and purpose and try to achieve your goals every single day. Try to improve yourself every day.

If you're busy with your purpose/mission/goals/hobby's every day, are social with friends and are getting other girls (aka if you are a succesful man) then you will 100% guaranteed not care about this one girl. Because she is not special man. She just isn't. Everyone on this sub knows and you will know it with time too.

brooklynbooked · 2019-09-23T15:08:48+00:00

Don't be her friend. Go no contact. Completely sever all ties with her. Block her on all platforms. She's dead to you.

I know it hurts now, but it'll get better. I had a 6 year LTR ghost me while I was in prison, and I got over that. You'll get over this too my friend.

IvaraMain · 2019-09-23T14:45:16+00:00

Broke up with a 2 year LTR last April. She stays at my house a lot so I broke one of Rollo's rule there. Throughout the months before and after the breakup I have been slowly taking in the red pill. I need that experience of deep female betrayal to get my shit together and stop living for a woman but for myself alone. I applied game on her post breakup and she was nagging me about why I'm already talking to other girls so quickly after I dumped her cheating ass. At that moment I know what exactly is happening.

That 20yo girl became my world but trust me, you will get over her. I'm never good with girls so I learned game, dated and fucked some girls after that but then I realized how much identity and masculinity I have sacrificed for that ex. So I laid down a bit and put my focus on building myself and my network.

Life is good.

imhere12343 · 2019-09-23T16:01:35+00:00

Dude she is deep down in other dicks already, she doesnt give a fuck anymore.

RPthrowaway123 · 2019-09-23T16:21:39+00:00

It's natural to feel sadness, loss, and everything else that comes with a breakup. Depression is when these feelings take over and become, essentially, permanent. My advice would be to focus on your mission. Let yourself feel sad if you feel sad, don't try to bottle it up, but once you've acknowledged it put the feeling away and refocus on yourself and your goals.

It's probably all a bit overwhelming now, but it WILL heal and you WILL be stronger for it.

Red_Pill_Brotherhood · 2019-09-23T17:38:42+00:00

Move on. Trust me, as someone who went through losing a "first love" you'll be fine with some time. Work on yourself, keep improving, do not stagnate in your temporary sadness, and go meet new women.

Edit: no contact with her anymore.

Title	21M broke up with what I believed was the love of my life (LTR of 3 years), trying to avoid depression
Author	Shovc
Upvotes	0
Comments	16
Date	September 23, 2019 2:18 PM UTC (6 years ago)
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