I will probably end up making a much more detailed post in the future, but I've been reading RP material for the last couple of weeks and would like to apply what I can to my LTR. I've definitely lost control and things aren't great. I want to move in the right direction, though I'm not sure how to go about doing it in a reasonable and sane way.

I won't ask for advice since I've not given any real background, but if you could direct me either to some books or posts about regaining control in dedicated LTR's and moving in the right direction.