I am 18 with divorced parents. My whole life, up until about six years ago, I remember my dad as a player. He would bring home different girls each week and they'd all be hot. He made himself and his value dependent on the girls he would sleep with. Six years ago, he met my stepmom and it all changed. She is a megalomaniac and control freak, and he was almost instantly whipped by her and got her pregnant. The past years, his efforts to see me have dwindled and all but disappeared; my stepmom limiting the amount of time she lets him spend with me because she gets jealous(of the attention he gives her and my young half sisters). I have a strong father figure in my stepdad, who is a masculine dude, but I always have a longing to have a connection with my actual father. Any time I mention this to him, he gets my stepmom involved and she turns the whole situation into her being the victim and how I am being so disrespectful to her. I tell her that this situation has absolutely nothing to do with her and she has no right to interfere between the relationship of my father and I, but it gets extremely frustrating. Can anyone give me any tips?

Tl;dr: my stepmom has my dad whipped and he is too pussy to do anything about it or make an effort to see me. He is becoming the typical "nice guy". Experienced RPillers, is it worth my effort to try and see him, considering I have a longing to see my father, or should I put my attention elsewhere?