So over the past two weeks I’ve been told by more than a handful of women a combination or variation of the following:

  • When we first met I found you very intimidating
  • My friend was dying to talk to you but she found you super intimidating
  • There is something really intense about you that I can’t figure out?

Now for context in not tall or really physically imposing. I sport an undercut and a short cropped beard, nothing out of the ordinary. Now the reason I bring this up that I’m not having as much success at day game as I would like; and when I do most of them are not down for a repeat. Now I’ll admit I’m rough with women in bed (choking, hard spanking) but I figured setting the tone of what I like in bed early is a good thing. I’m not dumb, I comfort them afterwards, tell tell they were great, etc etc. However now that this has been pointed out to me I might be missing something.

I guess my two questions are:

  • I try to act as soon as I see someone I’m interested so I don’t become my own saboteur but could this make me come off too strong; Should I be trying to “tone down” or establish some sort of comfort when just asking for numbers?
  • Is it better to “ease into” being rough in bed with women you’re trying to plate?