Can it be toxic to have an inflated sense of self-worth?

KrissVectorEOC · 2019-11-21T08:35:21+00:00

Read some Meditations. It's not narcissistic to think about yourself first. We've been brainwashed to do otherwise. Think of it as putting on your mask on a plane first before helping out the next person. No, it doesn't make you selfish, the best way to help another is by first helping yourself, otherwise you're not maximally capable to help others.

Dirkz · 2019-11-21T09:11:56+00:00

Strike a balance, moderation in all things. Society convinces you to be entirely selfish, this place will push you in the opposite extreme and as with most things the truth is somewhere in the middle.

Other responders line of "put your mask on before helping others" is spot on.

Women like assholes because they can't tell them difference between cockiness and confidence all the time. You can gain confidence and desirable personality traits without being a narcissistic asshole. Also the innate nature of things dictates that the man initiates, therefore feminine women are looking for someone with enough confidence to carry the interaction.

Keep in mind when you're wading through the garbage on this sub that 95% of the people participating are not desirable humans and aren't getting laid and aren't leading extraordinary lives and that's why they are here.

The thing you should learn from here is just like you are probably attracted to beautiful and interesting women the same goes for them. They want a good looking, interesting man. So become one. Don't be the nice guy meme, actually become someone attractive if that's what you want to be. If you want others to like you then you have to like yourself first.

AshyBoneVR4 · 2019-11-21T10:35:36+00:00

No body has a better sense of themselves than that individual does. You know yourself... or at the very least, you should.

The way I see this train of thought is it's just a beginning step. Most people come to TRP with a background of being a doormat. The idea of seeing yourself as being superior to others is to help change the person's mindset. It's good in small doses. To much of anything is a bad thing. Once you cross that arrogant narcissistic line it's hard to pull back.

That's why I said you have to know yourself. OP, you said that when you put yourself in that thought process you feel as thought you sound and feel more relaxed and confident. That's all you need. Get as much experience as you can thinking and feeling this way. Then the next thing you do is apply that idea to your everyday life. At some point and time you won't feel like you have to make yourself out to be the biggest dick in the room. You'll just naturally be and feel confident and relaxed.

It's like being able to stop caring about what other people think. That's the mentality you're after but its hard for most people to get to that point. But everybody's able to feel superior to others. Get to the point where you don't care, feel comfortable in your own skin, and go from there. Making yourself out to be superior CAN put you on the wrong path, but the good thing is you know that wrong path exists. Since you know it's there you're less likely to become a narcissistic asshole. It's still entirely possible, but just less likely.

PhaedrusHunt · 2019-11-21T10:17:44+00:00

Yeah I've had to be careful to keep narcissism in check. It's helpful to an extent, but you can ruin relationships if it gets out of hand

frognads · 2019-11-21T10:25:20+00:00

No, as long as you don't go over the top.

Title	Can it be toxic to have an inflated sense of self-worth?
Author	TBtgoat
Upvotes	6
Comments	9
Date	November 21, 2019 7:46 AM UTC (6 years ago)
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