These 2 questions refer to online dating. I usually use tinder & co as a numbers game, but I feel like I'm missing out in a lot of cases.

Example 1: When she asks what I'm looking for here. Here in Germany, most girls who ask are so delusional they think they'll find a boyfriend/husband on tinder. I used to write something like "moving out, need someone to help me with furniture", sounds strange on English. Anyway, was mostly a miss. Now I just I ignore the message altogether. Is there any good response for those type of girls?

Example 2: We meet and I fail to fuck on the first date, due to logistics for example or just bad game. Now in this case I kind of lost self control and made out too much with her, but knew I wouldn't get it up if we fucked in public. So I just ignore her and get a message a couple of days later thanking me for the date. I say nothing to thank for, we can do it again, on which she agrees. Two lines later I ask her about her schedule the next day and she hits me with a "I didn't expect you to want to meet again", which I see and ignore. In my experience, a girl would do that if she thought I wanted to fuck, didn't succeed and left disappointed. Basically playing games and seeing me as boyfriend material and needing assurance before meeting again. I usually ignore these answers now, but if I'm honest with myself, it still makes me angry because my obsessive side wants to understand it and then gets it to me. And although ignoring, anger is still emotional attachment. Having girls on the side helps, but it still bugs me, that's why I'm asking here. So my question is: should I ignore and if not, how to respond? I once responded to that and couldn't help myself getting into a discussion with a girl who then said she found someone else, blocked me and then hit me up a couple of months later and we fucked. I don't even want to meet her at the moment, but would like at some other time but want to make her chase again. Basically don't want to miss out on a plate and potentially fwb if there's an efficient way of turning this.