First off, HUGE thanks to RPC for playing a key, if not THE KEY role in saving my marriage. Things have gone from downright miserable to pretty good in a few short months... And for anyone who has been there in the miserable camp, you know that's a world of change.

My biggest problem pre RP was not OYS and focusing on me. I wasn't leading the ship, I wasn't the captain, I wasn't taking charge. When I started doing these things, big change. Possibly the biggest game changer has been taking responsibility and living like a single guy who has a woman living at his place... I'm responsible for my own bills, cleaning my own house, doing my own laundry - owning my stuff without expecting my wife to take care of it. Its been unbelievably good.

But fundamentally I have a problem / experience some disappointment. When I'm owning my life, covering all my bases and providing in every area like this - What's the point of marriage? What's the role of a wife?

Once you've made progress in OYS, what is the next step beyond 100% self sufficiency? In the 100% self sufficiency stage, having a wife seems a little redundant. After all, I'm self sufficient. Or maybe thats the point? But if so, it seems like a bit of a bad deal... doing all the work in what I originally thought was a partnership... Clearly I've still got a lot to learn!

So RPC, what do you think? What is the role of your wife once you're OYS, and what steps would you take to get there?