I can't stand having no power or influence

Tousen71 · 2019-12-25T00:22:58+00:00

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dirkberkis · 2019-12-25T00:04:58+00:00

Be the master of your own domain and the rest falls into place. You see those guys as magnets... why? Because you see what everyone else sees, theres no tricks involved. Its self perpetuating. Progress yourself and the rest follows.

Find what your interested in and invest yourself into it. Youll find likeminded people to bond with, and then suddenly youre a likeable person with personality and friends and hobbies. Then women notice what youre about and boom, youre a magnet too.

FrozenTreeStump · 2019-12-25T00:04:38+00:00

Put in the work

thrwy75479 · 2019-12-25T01:26:24+00:00

I managed to pay off 40k of student loans in under 4 years

In college i was partying every weekend and racked up an n-count of 50

I saved up some money and went to Thailand for 6 months and just drank and fucked hookers everyday

You've accomplished some things, and had some experiences. These things aren't nothing, they're something. Feel good about that.

I saw/met the guys who ran the beer bars/gogo bars.

Those guys are fulfilling the needs of their customers in exchange for money.

How do normal people get power? Are there any good books to read?

Power is complex. Generally though, helping people, actually caring about them, meeting their needs will bring you power. The more resources you have access to, the more people you can help, the greater your power.

As an example, in Influence: The Psychology of Persuasion, Cialdini highlights a key difference between President Jimmy Carter, and President Lyndon B. Johnson. While Carter came into power with a reluctance to help anyone, Johnson used cunning, and traded favours with many people as he rose through the ranks (pg. 25-26). When it came to pushing bills through legislation, this difference resulted in Carter facing far more difficulty than Johnson, who had accrued a lot of social debt in his favour.

Though it's probably not a good idea to go around creating covert contracts, and keeping score with everyone that you meet, I would encourage you to read the book as many of the principles are still generally relevant when it comes to influencing people.

Also, check out The Power Paradox by Dacher Keltner, who argues that giving away power is actually how you paradoxically gain power.

This also explains the influx of gurus for every area of life spreading their messages on YouTube, and all other forms of social media. They are all claiming to help people, providing answers to all of life's typical problems, capitalizing on the clicks, likes, and subscribes. Some are genuine, and of course, many are not.

You've likely already accrued the skills, and the knowledge to provide value in some way. It's a matter of reaching the people that require the help you're willing to provide, and engaging your audience. Over time, you will accumulate wealth, gain status, and build power.

This can be adapted to work where you may have a boss, or bosses; or a product-/service-based business.

LeChumScrubber · 2019-12-25T02:07:41+00:00

thanks for the responses u/dirkberkis , u/Kingandthesting, u/KrissVectorEOC, u/thrwy75479

RaidenDark · 2019-12-25T19:12:46+00:00

Stop giving a fuck.

The only power you need is over yourself. Your desire for power over others is probably showing and that's what's making you powerless. People can smell that shit from miles away, and dear God does it stink.

KrissVectorEOC · 2019-12-25T00:43:45+00:00

As someone else said, read. If you're lost in regards to what to do or your purpose then one way to find this is to begin to accumulate both knowledge and experiences. People will often lack one or the other. Attack that flaw. Find what works for you. Read what you don't like in regards to perspective. Analyze it and argue with the book. Entertain thoughts or opinions you disagree with because you never know how your own thoughts or opinions will change. Don't take things personally and take a step back and process things logically. The obstacle and the frustrations are your body telling you to keep going. A signal to push through. Others do they're but once you understand to find this and keep going, and find the results that happen soon after, then you will get addicted to the struggle. That's when things might click for you. Eventually all of this acquired knowledge and experience will come together and your mindset will take off from there.

GucciGreek · 2019-12-25T15:28:22+00:00

Money is power bro

Title	I can't stand having no power or influence
Author	LeChumScrubber
Upvotes	9
Comments	11
Date	December 24, 2019 11:57 PM UTC (6 years ago)
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