And by how do you do it, I don't mean how to get them, but how to maintain them.

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Right now I have 2 plates and it's not by design:

Plate 1 is a girl who's absolutely my type, but because I've dated her kind (super-intense woman, fun to be around, great in bed but also batshit crazy and melodramatic) in the past, I'm trying to keep her a bit at bay and not get to attached, because that's when the problems will start. Ergo, it has a clear expiration date. Once I start to get feelings I'll bail, fast.

Plate 2 is a cutie who I met just a few weeks ago. She isn't looking for anything serious and it's chill to be around her. I don't see neither I want things to get serious with her.

I'm not hiding anything from either of them or making false promises. But even considering that, I feel stressed with the situation from time to time. That's why I'm genuinely fascinated and intrigued by how many people here can sustain the spinning of plates (sometimes even 3 or more) without it being a full time job.

How do you do it while also keeping a career, going to the gym, maintaining friendships, having hobbies? Don't you feel overwhelmed or that it's draining too much of your energy?

Do the girls themselves know they are plates? Do they want more or are content with being that? Was this your objective from the beginning? Are you happy with the current state of things?

Please know that all these questions it's not me judging you but just being genuinely curious.