How do you get rid of imposter syndrome?

2030isCloserThan2003 · 2020-01-10T14:48:29+00:00

Youve just been brainwashed for many many years so its hard for you to naturally grow out of it than it is for others.

If you had grown up 200 or 1000 years ago in a different civilization, would u be calling yourself a fraud? You simply still have a lot of internal BP you that needs to die.

papapinga · 2020-01-10T14:46:03+00:00

Why do you feel you don’t deserve the success you’ve had?

Have you truthfully worked hard and honestly to earn your keep?

Are you a malicious person?

Do you feel you’ve helped others by bettering yourself?

Figure out the answer to what has you feeling this way. Then ask yourself why. What have you learned, heard, done or experienced to make yourself feel dishonest over your hard work and achievements.

acp_rdit · 2020-01-10T16:41:17+00:00

I also have a little fear that I might one day lose everything

If you truly earned it then you have nothing to fear, you can do it again and it will be even easier the 2nd time around because you have experience.

IXseed · 2020-01-10T20:47:22+00:00

Stop thinking that you're faking it until you make it because you've already made it.

The proof is in the puddin'.

red_philosopher · 2020-01-10T21:03:59+00:00

I read something interesting recently that Impostor Syndrome is a fundamental symptom of counter-dependent behavior.

How do you fix it? Learn to love yourself.

Why do you feel like a fraud? Is it true or are you just telling yourself that it's true? What's the actual truth? Tell yourself that truth and show yourself the love and respect that is due you. Repeat ad nauseum.

That'll be $100.

bevan2341 · 2020-01-13T11:41:51+00:00

Pretty sure this stems back to how parents treated you when you were younger. Likely one or both of your parents made you feel like no matter what you did it wasn’t good enough thus making you feel like you’re always a failure. I have a short pdf which has a little quiz in it and some reading that helps a bit with this. It won’t completely solve it for you but a great starting point to understand it a little more. If you’re interested I can send it too you(if I can figure out how to lol)

Ill_mumble_that · 2020-01-10T17:05:46+00:00

I had the same problem. Solution was lifting weights more and getting my testosterone higher.

You probably have low T, get tested.

Soy products lower your T. Plastic products like bottled water lower your T. There is an epidemic of low T males right now in the west especially in big cities and suburbs.

Edom_Kolona · 2020-01-10T19:31:22+00:00

Here's the question: is your RP implementation about what you do or what you are? Is your goal to act in a way that enables certain goals that you weren't reaching before, or to internalize certain principles so as to become something different than what you were before?

When you internalize the principles "losing everything" isn't an issue. If you need to, you can do that. You worked your way up to this, but DGAF (done correctly) means that if you have the right reason to you can burn it all, start over, and build it again. Is your DGAF just an act, or do you understand deep down in your heart that you can handle whatever happens and rebuild from any loss, even a catastrophic one?

As I see it (and I'm not claiming any real expertise, I'm still a beginner as I see it) this is an essential element of frame.
Gratitude is a step in the right direction. Humility is a step in the right direction. Apologizing for success and unearned guilt are big steps in the wrong direction because they come from a mindset of scarcity rather than a mindset of abundance.

EDIT: My STFU game is terrible and needs work. Yeah, I know.

brennyflocko · 2020-01-10T17:50:52+00:00

imposter syndrome is for girls snap out of it

Practical-Animal · 2020-01-10T16:59:29+00:00

"How did you deal with it?"

I'm not the virgin bluepiller anymore, I am Chad now lol. At first it was faking it til I make it, now I am that. Just make the jump?

Title	How do you get rid of imposter syndrome?
Author	JamzeNeu
Upvotes	9
Comments	12
Date	January 10, 2020 2:38 PM UTC (6 years ago)
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