Chick said I sucked at kissing

PreEntertain · 2020-10-09T21:47:50+00:00

Sounds like a great opener to get in a chicks mouth. "Can you believe that this chick called me a bad kisser?"

Psychological_Radish · 2020-10-09T21:21:57+00:00

Kissing takes a lot of practice, so obviously you need someone to practice with. The girls that are bad at kissing and sex (i.e. most of them) have never had a proper boyfriend in their lives. That's why I always prefer a chick who's had a nice Beta BF or two before me.

Anyway, kissing is like dancing; it doesn't work when both people are trying to lead, or when someone is leading too aggressively. There's a certain flow to it. Match her level of intensity at first, then ramp it up as she gets comfortable with what's happening. Generally you start with small little kisses, moving toward deeper making out, and finally toward intense tongue action.

Girls often complain about guys shoving their tongue down their throats. There's nothing wrong with that, but it's not something that you want to do immediately. You lead up to it in a controlled manner with soft strokes against her tongue (like licking an ice cream cone), not like you're trying to eat her face right out of the gate.

It's hard to explain. Like dancing, I've sometimes thought that you're either good at kissing or you aren't, but I do think anyone can get decent enough with practice.

Source: I am often told that I'm a good kisser (forgive the flex).

batfish55 · 2020-10-09T22:01:17+00:00

I never tried to put it into words before, but here we go.

Kissing is my move. Only 1-2 girls I kissed that I didn't nail.

All girls like it different, like sex. Start soft and gentle and slowly go harder and deeper until you get a reaction. She might moan, she might lean into you, she might start grabbing at you, but when you give it to her like she likes, if you pay attention, you'll know.

I was with one girl who just liked little soft butterfly kisses on her neck, all the way up to girls who wanted me to violently rape their mouths with my tongue, and everything in between.

I will say tho, asian girls kiss weird. Like, asian asian. Not american born.

SIR_SKINNYPENIS69 · 2020-10-09T21:50:10+00:00

This is why God invented cousins to practice with when you're growing up

armenian_UwUcide · 2020-10-09T22:39:41+00:00

I tease when I kiss.

Often, I like to fuck with girls by holding up their chin to look at me, slant my eyes a bit, go in slowly like I’m about to kiss them - emphasis on slow as to build the tension - and as they close their eyes expecting contact, I immediately break away and divert my attention to something else and act like the moment never happened at all. Sometimes I’ll even graze their lips before pulling away.

I’ll do this a few times before actually initiating a kiss which is typically much more aggressive and intimate, often flat out making out.

The reactions I’ve gotten from ‘frustrated’ girls by abusing their tingles this way has also been priceless. One girl I did this too would flat out become enraged; I would snicker some, restraining laughter, all while continuously ignoring her comments and direct the conversation to whatever I was diverting my attention to before getting her again some several minutes later. Good times.

A man who is very skilled in his sexuality will always prioritize doing what girls are known to do; advertise it, tease them, and make them crave the resolution of the tension before delivering at the latest time possible. You can’t beat amused mastery of restraint and timing.

Lyxeka · 2020-10-10T05:30:44+00:00

Shit text, ignore it. Ive had one girl tell me I was an amazing kisser, then the next told me I sucked. I told the one afterward that a girl said I sucked at kissing and she offered to "teach me." When we got down to it sje was like idk wtf that other girl was talking about you kiss great. Go figure. Agree and amplify if you want say youve never kissed a girl before

Casanova-Quinn · 2020-10-09T23:52:26+00:00

I’ve had girls say I’m a good kisser, and my general strategy is to just mirror their behavior. If she’s kissing soft and slow, I’ll do the same. If I want to ramp it up from there, I’ll just increase the intensity one notch and see if she matches it, and if so, then repeat. Hold off on tongue until she starts doing it. Remember to keep your mouth open at the same size, don’t eat her face lol.

ezragriffin · 2020-10-09T21:21:05+00:00

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vandaalen · 2020-10-09T22:44:03+00:00

Fucking autists at work here again...

The girl doesn't dictate anything when it comes to intimacy (or anything else). You do it.

There are basically just two things that can go wrong when kissing.

You are probably guilty of the first one: be boring as fuck. Be wild, be passionate, be creative. Kiss her lips, suck on her tongue, lick over her face, bite her neck, whatever you want to, but fucking be there in that moment and show your arousal. Women mirror your arrousal and you want to escalate to your dick in her pussy.

Which brings me to the second mistake: not being congruent. You can't just straight away lick a girl's face. Start gently and work your way up.

distraff · 2020-10-09T22:42:53+00:00

Buy a blow-up doll and practice on it. Thats what I did.

NorthOC · 2020-10-10T05:28:34+00:00

It's a shit test bro

InnerMir · 2020-10-10T05:57:33+00:00

It's called shit testing... you did good.

Fusionnn · 2020-10-09T22:35:03+00:00

You follow their lead. If it's light pecks don't start sticking your tongue down her throat, take it slow and let things get heated naturally. Use your lips, don't buck teeth with each other

Kniit · 2020-10-09T22:24:16+00:00

What another bloke said before, just match their intensity. There are 3 levels to it.

Smooching without any tongue. (I find this strange but some girls just kiss like this, some people are weird about germs and hygiene)
normal hooking up. I put the tip of my tongue behind my bottom teeth and push the middle part of my tongue forward (but only a little bit). This allows a bit of tongue contact but you're not putting your tongue in her mouth. Do this whilst you do the slow rocking motion with your jaw. I learnt this from a girl i hooked up with in a bar and was blown away how good it was, so I copied it.
full blown tongue down each others mouth and throats like you're 14 at the disco. I don't recommend or like this unless its passionate af.

You want to match their intensity because if you've ever been on the receiving end of a girl going over the top it is such a turn off. Imagine a fat chick throwing her tongue down your throat.

And most important, don't have the breath of a garbage can.

marcus8crassus · 2020-10-09T21:40:04+00:00

Why do you give a fuck what she thinks? She’s just some dumb sloot. Plus, you’ve never gotten that complaint before.

Keep to your game. Keep true to yourself. Don’t let other people’s words and actions have so much power over you. Especially some thot.

RP_utiliser · 2020-10-10T00:13:30+00:00

Ive been told that too before, sucks for them i guess

alchemical_rage · 2020-10-10T07:17:02+00:00

You guys should go to his place and teach him using all your elaborated strategies.

Calm down, it’s just a simple shit test.

“Well, you’re the only woman I ever touched, we all have to start somewhere.”

woyak4643 · 2020-10-11T20:11:27+00:00

Shit test. Agree and amplify.

le_wolfe · 2020-10-10T06:35:40+00:00

Don't care still smashed.

Deplorable090 · 2020-10-09T23:23:02+00:00

The only response you needed was "Teach me." In a dominant tone. Bing bang boom you're back to kissing and you're not posting on reddit

Keith_Valentine · 2020-10-10T07:53:46+00:00

Just spell words with your fuckin tongue and a situation where going too deep isnt always good. Also try to make sure you fart while you are kissing her, it realizes pheromones. She will go crazy for the smell!

CameOnHerBitties · 2020-10-09T22:06:14+00:00

Get a girlfriend and learn from her. When you're done with her just move on to other bitches.

Title	Chick said I sucked at kissing
Author	EP13
Upvotes	29
Comments	55
Date	October 9, 2020 8:55 PM UTC (5 years ago)
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