Abundance can't be the answer because severe oneitis get in the way of that . So the question is really how to move past oneitis to get to abundance.

Note that I am fully aware that AWAS. Severe oneitis is by definition a long inflatuation with one woman whom you believe is not the same. I could objectively make the case that she's not. But then again so can everyone else with oneitis. Also, it does not feel like I 'm in the frienzone. I don't have besties convo with her so much so that there is a lot I don't know about her. We've been showing mutual interest to each other for some time. Distance makes thing difficult. Met her once when I was in her city. For a number of reasons nothing happened. So far neither, one of us has been willing to make the extra effort to bridge the distance.

It does feel like, as she enters the last stretch of her 20's, she's keeping me as an option in case the one ex ( and possibly the only one) with whom I believe she's still involved never gets his shit together. The joke is that I also see her as a good back option in case I wanted a decent mother to have my kids while I'm still young and while she's still on the better side of the wall ( Don't want to gamble on a future prime, but that's another story)

At any rate, any word of inspiration revolving aro und how to frame my self worth would be appreciated.

Finally I'm downvoting anyone who suggests lifting. You're not yelping.