What happens when Men are affected by this concept of Virginity? I as a man am very much troubled by it. You say it's for controlling women, Maybe it was. But it still applies to all genders. Not just women. Yes, You will say Men who have sex are looked up to. But wait, By who? The ones who have never ever had and Sex has been fantasized for them as some hard to achieve goal. Such a man will only get much value in his own circlejerk. nowhere else.

But I have a shitty feeling about being a virgin.

(TMI: I have an average penis)

There are 4 cases and each one makes it even shittier for me to live a normal-ass life.

Case1: Women is Promiscuous, I am Not.

The Age-Old She'll cheat, She has more experience, My own jealousy, Posts like this

https://www.reddit.com/r/relationships/comments/2ss7ed/my_husbands30f_penis_is_so_small_i_can_barely/?utm_medium=android_app&utm_source=share

I don't wanna live with someone who's out there had better, and settles for me.

I want to crazily lusts for me, Loves only me.

Why is that not a good argument I'll never understand...

Case2: I am Promiscuous, She is Not.

Now I feel bad, My own image goes down the drain, My moral compass gets fucked up. My reputation is hurt, and Most importantly She'll feel probably the same things I mentioned above. Which is wrong to put someone through.

Case3: We are both Virgins.

We could discover sex for ourselves, Without there ever being Another Man or Another Woman coming into the discussion, Yeah It'll be rough in the beginning, But where's the fun in playing a game where you know all the tricks?

Case4: We are both Promiscuous.

We both don't value virginities as much, But I foresee a future of Open Marriages and Cheating and Disregard for the whole special thing by both sides. I mean why not eh?

I have to live with my penis and my wife for the rest of my life, and I most definitely can't take

"Yeah, Sex was better with him buuuuuttt... I love YOU and choose YOU!"

I say fuck that. This is my damage control. I want to feel secure in a relationship. And I know I am inadequate. So I am doing what a weak person does. He makes his move where the pasture is not used much for hunting. You get much more there. I know shitty analogy.

A weak person like me has to improvise.

And women have preferences too. Some want to date Experienced Guys, Some Women take pleasure in deflowering Guys

It's not about the most enjoyable sex, it's about being memorable.

Who do you remember fondly?

The guy who was your first.

The guy who gives you uncontrollable orgasms.

If I am neither, just your husband, who does say suppose Adequate sex... You'll resent me, And Porn Companies would ask you for their stories, aka you'll cheat

Don't lecture me about oral sex, I know about it.