Women not giving out # on tinder due to safety. What to do about it?

RPNorvell · 2020-02-04T17:34:16+00:00

This is insane.

She's on a DATING APP expressly to MEET NEW PEOPLE.

It's just a version of the "I want to get to know you better..." excuse they have to keep you at arms length yet still receive validation from you in the for of continued communication.

In other words, she's wasting your time.

The best way to learn about the other person is to go on a date with them.

mksu911 · 2020-02-04T17:25:24+00:00

My experience is that girls who won't give their numbers rarely will actually meet up.

Plus there's a lot of trolls on the app. If you want to schedule a date without a number, make sure it's as close and as convenient to you as possible, as a no show is very likely.

PoonBuffet · 2020-02-04T17:54:19+00:00

I'm pretty unsure what to do about this.

You do nothing. Delete her. Best case, Her Highness is trying to see if you'll be a good complicit male and let her orient herself as the prize from the outset. It's a form of shit test and the o.g. female neg- "You're a rapist unless you prove otherwise by wooing me and buying me dinner tee hee". That's assuming she's actually on the app to meet up at all.

I come across these "I don't give out my #" retards now and then - they are not worth MY limited and precious time. I had a legitimately hot one pull this once. I wished her well and pulled back, then she says "I'm going to be at so and so place eating dinner if you want to join", I deleted. Not playing her fucking game, and submissively "joining" her.

Psychological_Radish · 2020-02-04T18:18:16+00:00

Dude, I've gone straight to cute little 18-20 year old girls' apartments after matching an hour before on Tinder. Here I am, a totally strange adult man, going directly to a younger girl's place and fucking the shit out of her.

I don't say that to brag, but rather to impress upon you how absurd it is that a woman balks at giving her phone number when many of them have had encounters like the one that I describe above. It just means that she isn't that into you. Probably she's trying to stall, hoping that the guy that she ACTUALLY wants to bang follows through.

Whenever a girl says something like "I want to get to know you better," I simply ghost. No point in continuing that discussion, because you're negotiating desire. The only exception is that sometimes girls looking for a ONS won't give out a phone number. They just want to bang and never speak again.

RedSkeller · 2020-02-04T18:16:54+00:00

Funny thing is, all the violence and robberies off of OLD has been men. Sure, plenty of women have 'stories' but they're more likely creeped out it isn't Chad that they ordered on door dash and want a refund. Plus, Tinder is already rolling out a service where you can report your whereabouts to a third party app for protection. And finally, I rarely ask for numbers these days - either I give her mine or she sends it without me asking.

Mobile_Pepper · 2020-02-05T01:11:14+00:00

they should really make it so you can stop someone from texting or calling you from a number, like some sort of ‘blocking’ ability featured on phones. Until that time, women on dating apps will keep getting relentlessly raped and murdered after providing people their phone numbers. Thoughts and prayers to those all..

frognads · 2020-02-05T03:43:24+00:00

Attention whores love attention and will waste your time.

Unmatch them.

Title	Women not giving out # on tinder due to safety. What to do about it?
Author	Specialcz3
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Date	February 4, 2020 5:21 PM UTC (6 years ago)
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