I’m divorced, mid-40s. My gf is late 20s and while we started off having an intense sexual relationship we both knew that’s not what we wanted. We want to live right until marriage and there have been a few slip ups that were embarrassing and disappointing due to issues on my end. I felt guilty and stressed about breaking our commitment and it impacted me physically. My gf has expressed concern that she’s marrying an impotent man. I told her that i’m glad the issue happened as it kept us from crossing a line.

BUT i am worried too - is it going to get better? is it going to be worse? is it worth carrying all of this into a new marriage? can this be addressed in pre-marital counseling?