If you were beta 3 years ago with your first ltr, and has changed a lot these past few years after knowing about trp, will she see you as beta forever?

I have this one girl (my 1st gf) which I took her virginity, making small moves to reconnect, but every other time she did it I was still working on myself and was not “ready”, and she perceived me as beta and only wanted attention. Now it seems like she sees me as “ready” because I’m in law school and all that, she tryna get that provider or there’s nothing here and it’s like starting over?