Are any other men like this?

Blackhawk2479 · 2020-03-14T14:06:54+00:00

Drop that “amazing chicks” thing for starters - sure there are some great girls, but amazing is too much. They are all boring, self-centred and take huge shits just like you and me.

Yes, you’re still a virgin.

And that’s why you’re making a big deal out of sex. It’s not a big deal, it’s fun, but once you’ve got it under your belt you’ll wonder what all the fuss was about.

TheRedPillRipper · 2020-03-14T14:16:43+00:00

Should I try random hookups

First off; TRP is amoral. What you choose; OR what you choose not to do; is entirely up to you.

I’m 22

What’s your body like? What about finances? What about your self confidence? Where do you derive your internal validation; your sense of self satisfaction from?

What’s your mission?

You’ve got a lot of positives going for you. Being romantic can be useful; toward the right end. If you want to wait for marriage; wait for marriage. If you want to find a high value girl; settle down and hope your marriage/relationship is the one(unicorns don’t exist); go right ahead. It’s however called Hardmode for a reason.

Conversely you could sleep around; test the waters. See what you like; what you don’t. That’s encouraged too. The reason I asked you those questions first is because your post is asking a lot about her; and has very little focus on you. In any relationship; be it a ONS; or a lifetime; there’s only one captain. Before you can make those choices, in any relationship; with any confidence; answer those questions first. If you’re unhappy with any of those answers; focus on those first.

Remember there’s literally new girls turning 18; daily. You won’t regret the time setting up your future life today. If you want to fit some girls in too; who’s to say no?

Godspeed and good luck!

FinancialThanks1 · 2020-03-14T14:21:59+00:00

You may have been conditioned to feel this disgust or guilt around casual sex but it doesn’t sound like you have any concrete reasoning as to why you shouldn’t do it

Unlikely_Composer · 2020-03-14T14:32:49+00:00

I think I'm kinda different in this regard, but I'm a hopeless romantic and am just not comfortable with the thought of being intimate with someone I don't have feelings for

So don't?? The real question is why do you feel this way? could it be because you've been told by women that hooking up without feelz is bad?

so I don't even know if I'm a virgin lmao coz I think oral sex is still sex,

It isn't. This is ego-defence. You're a virgin and you're not okay with it.

Point being I see promiscuous girls all around me and that scares me,

Why?

recently I found out that a girl I had feelings for and we hooked up ( didn't have sex coz we hooked up just before she was leaving the country)

No, you didn't have sex because you didn't make her want you to fuck her / didn't escalate enough.

she mentioned her tinder one night stands on a group we are together, that just reduced my attraction to her by like 50 percent,

Because it made you feel bad that you can't compete. That's competition anxiety. I know because I used to feel like that.

cos it just doesn't make sense to me how you can share the most intimate experience in life with someone you barely know?

Sex isn't the most intimate experience you can have with someone. Ask yourself: who told you that it is?

Should I change how I think or should I maintain my standards?

I think you should look deep into yourself and decide what it actually is that you want, and then go after it.

I mean even if I love the shit out of them deep down I'll feel like we don't have the same morals and values when it comes to sex,

Sex has nothing to do with morality these days.

one of the most important things in a relationship

Why?

Finally my question is should I try random hookups or something?

I think you need to get laid so you know more about sex and why it isn't as magical and sacred as you seem to think it is.

how I am will cost me some amazing chicks coz I realize everyone has Skeletons in their closet,

They're skeletons because women don't want you to know they fuck loads of men because society shames it and it makes them less LTR-able. Have you actually read the sidebar/rational male/book of pook? Start reading them right now.

but I see sex as something to be done in a loving monogamous relationship and casual sex is off putting,

Why do you think this?

so I think I'll be okay if a girl had sex with 3-4 people who she was dating, but 3-4 dudes she met on tinder?

You've just excluded 99% of women over the age of 20. Read the sidebar, and then tell me what AWALT means.

I'll level with you - don't take offence to what I've said to you. I'm a tough-love type of guy. It seems to me that on one hand, you're aware of what TRP is, but on the other, you've got a deeply ingrained set of BP ideas in you. The first thing you need to do is all the required reading:

- Sidebar

-Rational Male

- book of pook

-Sidebar again

- top 15 posts on the main sub

- learn about psychology:

- Ego defence, competition anxiety, projection

Then come back and tell me that you still think the same way.

Search asktrp and trp for a link to download red pill books - you'll find all of what I recommend + more.

EDIT: be prepared for the phases of grief when you start to accept the red pill.

Sacredbonezll · 2020-03-14T22:32:54+00:00

Bro you sound really blue pill

Title	Are any other men like this?
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Date	March 14, 2020 1:54 PM UTC (6 years ago)
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