Performance anxiety help

Was-Erlauben-Strunz · 2020-03-14T02:06:32+00:00

Okay hear me out. First of all please don't take any fucking drugs to fix these kind of things. Don't listen to that dude even if he means well. Mental shit need to be adressed mentally, except for extreeeeme cases and by professionals. You will gain tremendous confidencz by overcoming it yourself instead.

Now. You can gain it back totally. The thing is, as all stuff, its about practice. You were depressed by the break up, lost confidence etc shit happens.

As your urologist confirmed it, you're healthy which means all you need to do is have some good ol wank sessions. And I don't mean porn binging, I mean use your imagination. Why? Because to be excited by your own mind you'll have to have control of it. Picture some nice situations, good vibes etc. So your hard ons will become again assimilated to positive shit.

Also if you want to be a stud you try to hold on for an hour, dont always stroke like a looney, be creative.

Aight that felt really gay to write so ima go punch a wall hope it helps

HauntingPlatypus · 2020-03-14T12:37:50+00:00

Yeah, I was having very regular sex for a long time with no issues at all, then it happened once and then 3/4 maybe 5 times in a row, and it seemed like my sex drive just dropped off a cliff suddenly, just generally too not just when I needed it.

So I got some viagra, was taking half a pill a time and using it for a month or so with good results and felt confident with it of course, until I forgot to take it once and things went great anyway, the next time I went with some in my pocket, just in case, and didn't need it either. I have a couple left so I'm using them sporadically, but I rebuilt my confidence enough to where I don't actually need it now.

mksu911 · 2020-03-14T04:31:38+00:00

Just get some generic viagra. I used to keep a stash until I stopped getting nervous about banging new sluts. The urologist would probably give you some if you asked.

Powerfucking5000 · 2020-03-14T01:34:29+00:00

Can you ask for low dose of sildenafil?

LegendarySuperSalsa · 2020-03-14T07:34:04+00:00

It takes a man on average 2-4 minutes to become fully aroused. Women take 3-4 times that on average to become fully aroused. If you can’t keep it up for an extended period then try your hardest (pun intended) to not get excited right away.

Another little fun fact notice how in some pornos the guys typically are not always that good looking or very...’big’? It’s because typically the only real requirement for male pornstars is being able to get and keep an erection for a long ass time, which not a lot of guys can do especially while doing it in front of an entire crew.

Also practice helps. Me for example I always hated giving speeches in front of people. Still do tbh. My first college com 103 speech class speech I was terrified. In fact because of the anxiety I nearly had a breakdown the days prior. But I somehow got through it on the day of and I wouldn’t say I even remotely knocked it out of the park but I got my whole class laughing with the comedy elements of my speech. Even the teacher had to compliment me on it and I ended up with a 93% on it. My last speech of that class that time I was way more fluent and less nervous because of 2 things. I was more comfortable with my audience and I had better self confidence because I did well before and learned from mistakes I made.

Outside of all that if all else fails if you smoke, do illegal (or in some cases legal but non medical) drugs, or drink alcohol reduce or completely cut them, watch your blood pressure and testosterone, and adjust your diet. I noticed mainly when I cut my fast food to a max of 2 meals a week and started eating more fruits and vegetables my erections were better and noticeably longer that they used to be. Also alternatively read into how certain things can stop or reduce errections which may possibly be the cause, such as flexing any/too many of your muscles for too long or repositioning yourself too much during sex.

diggyigy · 2020-03-14T11:07:10+00:00

I would honestly get some daily cialis for a while till you get your confidence up.

It will give you some confidence and later you can try to tapper it off.

RPOpenUp · 2020-03-14T11:39:36+00:00

How into it were you?

barn3r · 2020-03-14T15:31:18+00:00

I had a few incidents as a teenager with performance anxiety. Simply wouldn’t get hard. I got a source for cialis at 19 and never had performance anxiety again. I still use it as a confidence booster and it does improve performance as far as stamina and bringing in a raging boner (cialis, viagra, etc. are vasodilators) , but only for the first few hook ups with a girl. After that if I want to really pound them I’ll take it, but I don’t really need it anymore.

Title	Performance anxiety help
Author	hedden93
Upvotes	8
Comments	11
Date	March 14, 2020 1:26 AM UTC (6 years ago)
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