Summary

Different types of players and approaches

The AFC
You are a horny AFC, you have watched a couple of RSD Tyler videos and now you want to go to a bar, approach at least 10 women until one of them clicks. You try and its a complete disaster. Every one of the 8 women you hit on have rejected you. Some subtly -- by giving short answers and turning away from you to talk to her friends and some others a bit more rudely. Your confidence is now shot and bleeding but you want to approach the remaining two. As you move towards candidate #9, your heart sinks, you feel a nasty knot in your stomach and you already know how badly you will bomb...

Perceived Confidence: 10%, IDGAF: 0%, Pre-selection: 0%

The blue piller
You are a blue piller and you are actually quite comfortable talking to women .... as long as you're not attracted to them. You can talk for hours regarding shopping, celebrities and all manner of crap that women talk about to each other. However, you are pretty much useless with a woman you want. You are nervous and fidgety, often coming off as a creep. Most interactions with women are in your social circle. Therefore, there is an element of safety in that they will not panic or reject you as long as you are asexual. And that's the way it stays. Occasionally, when introduced to an attractive woman, you start gushing and the lack of calm confidence sabotages every opportunity. Alcohol is probably one of the biggest reasons you even get laid. Some blue pillers have a decent enough future that they get girl-friends, but its a constant struggle of emotion and drama.

Its obvious that the blue piller is only slightly more developed socially because he has practiced talking to women in the asexual safety of his social circle.

Perceived Confidence: 30%, IDGAF: 10%, Pre-selection: 10%

The jerk
You are a jerk and you mess with women all the time, including the first time you talk to them. When the girl on the next table says, "I don't want to eat a lot", you reply: "how about I order a burger and give you the lettuce leaf?" and laugh maniacally and return to your table's conversation without waiting for a reply. If she replies playfully, the conversation turns into a funny banter and becomes an approach.

Perceived Confidence: 70%, IDGAF: 50%, Pre-selection: 30%

The pimp
You are a pimp and always have a woman or two or three about you. You are dressed sharp, drive a nice car and know which woman has noticed you already. When you walk up to a woman, you already have a good sense of whether she is attracted to you. You do not need to be a jerk, you can introduce yourself and directly ask her out. Most of the time, she will say yes simply out of curiosity.

Most of the original PUA stuff was Blue-pillers pretending (weakly) to be jerks (negging as an open) and pimps (peacocking, pre-selection, ioi to gauge interest)

Perceived Confidence: 90%, IDGAF: 50%, Pre-selection: 100%

The made man The made man has evolved beyond the above and often he is not as noticeable as the pimp. Nice clothes, cars, women are props that effectively signal value. A made man knows with utter confidence that he does not need to signal, because he expects to already be well known (social-proof). He also already has two or three very hot women and is not really looking for more. He has the confidence that he will charm and win over the ones who don't know him. A first interaction with women will cause the women to immediately like him and be attracted (as in want more of his attention). When he escalates physically, they are usually receptive. At this point, he is the minority that can simply "be yourself"

Perceived Confidence: 100%, IDGAF: 90%, Pre-selection: 50 to 100%

Confidence
The opposite of confidence is anxiety. The AFC is constantly anxious in the presence of women. The BP tries to eliminate anxiety it by pretending to be asexual. The jerk masks it by pretending to be obnoxious (which takes some confidence). At the level of a pimp, its pretty obvious he does have confidence, because he has already shown women are replaceable. The made man is pretty rare but I've seen a few. These guys have a sheer force of personality that is irresistible.

As you can see the level of thirst displayed in the initial interaction pretty much puts you in your bracket of creepiness/attractiveness. Lack of thirst is IDGAF. Lack of anxiety is confidence.

Controlling Testosterone: Control Desire
Many of you are probably in the AFC/BP category at least when it comes to approach. Your thirst is apparent when you approach any woman(for AFC) or the woman you want(for BP). You need to be able to turn this off just to have decent conversation without making an utter fool of yourself. The key to do this is to eliminate desire for that woman.

Techniques to control desire:
* Pursue multiple women at once. This diffuses your sense of what's at stake if it does not work out.
* When approaching a woman, approach without desire, or better still without wanting anything beyond a simple conversation.
* Practice controlling desire in other areas, especially food. If there is a dessert you like, order it and toss a coin. If its tails, don't eat it (may be cheaper to do this at a buffet)

Once you approach women with the intention of the interaction not turning into anything else, you will see how little they have to offer in terms of conversation. It is then you realize that you are the prize. You are the one offering good conversation to bored people

When you can talk to a woman without thirst, she will stop seeing you as a disgusting, creepy loser. She may even accompany you to bars (as a non-date). A couple of such women are now your pre-selection.

Your first exercise therefore, is to talk to as many women as you can without thirst. The ability to not want a woman, to treat her like you treat anyone else is so refreshing to them, that they will feel a sense of comfort interacting with you. Once you have interacted for a while, and shared some laughs, you can turn the desire back on. Just look into her eyes and take her hand and you have communicated desire. After this, she is yours to lose.

Conclusion

Pook's advice on controlling desire is good advice to improve your approaches if you are useless in the presence of women you want.