Donny’s biggest take-away to my Introduction to Red Pill Game presentation was a double-edged sword. When Donny had shown me the women he had been messaging on OKCupid, it took me a second to think about how I would delicately handle it- they were all a pretty solid HB8s and on the receiving end of long rambling messages about liking the same kind of movies; for the record, Donny is far closer to being able to attract a low-end HB4 (and, most likely as a provider-man).

Donny was messaging girls on OKCupid like he was shopping out of the Sear’s Christmas Wish Book or shopping for a car; perusing all options, and carefully choosing the ones he wanted most. However, dating doesn’t work like that; yes, you should have a confident buyers mentality, but to think OKCupid is a buyers market is naive; to be able to attract women who are objectively attractive, you need experience; you need to shoot at some targets.

I told Donny to get out in the field and get some target practice, that he should be out in the wild fucking girls who will let a guy like Donny fuck them. This is good advice when done correctly.

Target practice should not be an end in itself; target practice isn’t about enjoying the warm, wet hole as a job well done. While you should certainly fuck that girl with everything you’ve got and enjoy the moment for what it is, target practice is meant as a learning experience for future development. If you’re patting yourself on the back with a slice of pizza and a can of beer after, you are doing it wrong.

At the beginning of your Sexual Marketplace journey, you need an accurate read of your Sexual Market Value; this is not an objective standard. What your Sexual Market Value was in 2010 is not what it is in 2015, even if you stayed the same. A man’s Sexual Market Value is contingent on the Sexual Marketplace, and currently there is a rapidly widening gap between men and women. What this means is, an HG6 in 2010 is closer to something like an HG4 today; an HG7 is closer to an HG5, which is the dead center average on the scale; in other words, HG7 has become the baseline- to stand out, as a male, you’ll need to be between HG8-HG10.

Look at it this way: if a man is just slightly outside the top 20% of men at his gym, at best women will understand him as average, baseline attractive (HG5-6); this is because anything below this baseline, to women, is unattractive and therefore invisible. So, if you’ve been lifting for a year, are reasonably low body-fat and made noticeable muscle gains but are just outside that elite top 20%, congrats homeboy, you are now baseline attractive; anything below you is inedible dog food.

An immediately relatable example of the changing Sexual Marketplace is observable when a man exits a Long Term Relationship and re-enters the marketplace. Watch his shock and befuddlement as he is sure to over-valuate his current value based on his prior experience on the market.

Proper use of Game will make the difference in how your value is perceived.

Game is more important now than it ever has been before.

The first thing you need is a litmus test; you need social feedback. Maybe your mom was right and you’re a real catch at HG8; maybe you were an HG7 a few years ago, but now you’re an icky HG5. It is of extreme important for you to know your accurate, up-to-date Sexual Market Value.

This means you need to get out there and do your best to meet girls; day-game, night-game, online-game, work-game, friend-circle game; the point is, you need an accurate read on where you stand in the market and what your value is.

If you’re happy with your present results, good on you. Most people probably won’t be, as is the reality of the present-day Sexual Marketplace. I encourage you, good friend, to not be complacent in this victory. If you can rather easily pull an HB6-7, keep on improving and sharpening your game and try to pull an HB8-9.

If you are somewhat dissatisfied with your results, you need target practice; this is where tight, proper game becomes essential. If it takes work to pull an HB4-6, you need to work on all-aspects of your approach and interaction strategy. The idea here is that if you cannot easily pull HB4-6, you’ll never have a shot with the upper-tier of in-demand women; guaranteed you will get blown out of the water each time. This concept is known as social momentum; only as you gain comfort in your experience and masculinity will you be able to attract the most women.

Think of it like this, if women want a man in the top 20%, Game "as comfort in experience and masculinity" is what signals to them that you are part of the cool kids; this comfort in experience can only be obtained authentically, though actual experience. This is why I suggest target practice for all skill levels; even if you are only pulling HB4s- my rule of thumb is if you can get it up for her then she’s worthy of being target practice.

Monk mode is for men who reject entirely their place in the Sexual Marketplace- usually coming out of Long Term Relationships as fat, sappy, estrogen filled motherfuckers. This is fine and all; use monk mode to get fit, get skilled, get cool, get smart, and regain your sense of masculine identity. I say a good marker for when to traisnition out of monk mode is when you are able to pull an HB4-5; then it’s back onto target practice.

Donny’s take away to this? To start fucking a fat girl who is dying to lock him down as a provider. While he’s smart enough to avoid that all-together, and good on him, now he thinks “all that game stuff” is just silly…

Sigh.

Part 00: The Fragile Ego- Don't Do What Donny Does

Part 01: Attraction and the Female "Culture of Categorization"

Part 02: Signifiers of the Alpha Male, Signifiers of the beta-male

Part 04: 3 Most Important Components to a Successful Date

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