The main problem why many people stay beta is because they are not always failing. A small dose of success does come sooner or later. For a married man , having duty sex every 9 to 14 days is success. He is not in a completely dead bedroom , so he is probably doing at least something right , right? Maybe if he bends over even more for his wife , her libido will increase and sex will be had every 7 days. Just like this guy. He used the Communication method to increase his desirability.

34m married 10 years to 30f (with 2 kids) ; Sex once every 2 weeks or so.

For some people in that subreddit , having that much sex in a ten year marriage is pure excellence. And the guy says it himself. It is not awful , he just wants more. I can't imagine how great can having missionary every two weeks or so be.

Finished reading my Deadbedroom in the room I slept in by myself about a week and a half ago, and texted her how I felt. She had no idea I felt the way I did. Comments like "Im very sexually frustrated" and "My needs arent even close to being met" were phrases I used to stress how upset I was. She literally told me she never thought I wanted her the way I do.

TRP makes men out of boys because it embraces masculinity. We all know how "attractive" it is to any woman when you spill your feelings and show her all your weaknesses. It's not only an attraction killer but it also lists a few ways how your girl can exploit your crybaby personality.

She cried all night. The next morning, she called me while I was at work and promised to do better. In the last week, she has kissed me more, held me more, iniated sex about every other night, and doesn't pull away when i touch her.

Guess this guy turned into Machiavelli for a night. Using all sorts of manipulation techniques only via text , he successfully turned his marriage around. He used guilt and victimhood to maximize the frequency of sex. And he is so elevated that he is successful , without understanding how destructive this newfound technique is to genuine desire.

It may last and it may not, but if it doesn't, I'll talk to her again. I actually should have voiced my concern sooner.

The guy does not really outline how he is managing to make himself more desirable. He does not say anything about his marriage. We don't know if he lifts or if he takes care of all the chores. The slight difference between those speak volumes.

For now , all he did was Victim Puke in front of his wife and the strategy worked. It honestly is pathetic to use female tricks to increase sex frequency. But some men don't know better and the commenters are also part of them.

The evident conclusion to be drawn has been clichéd already. Be Attractive. Don't be unattractive. Using guilt trips , or the so called communication , for sex will only decrease your value in the eyes of your woman. It works in the short term. It kills in the big picture.