Hello again.

Thank you all for your support and help. I did not know this community existed before I was told by a few people to head over and share my story. I appreciate every single one of you who commented. I have even had people private message me and offer to hangout with me, buy me a round of drinks, a place to stay for a while, one younger gentleman even invited me on a camping trip he and his friends are attending all expense paid. Another offered to fly me to his state and help me find a job in my field and a place to stay while living with him. I have never been so openly welcomed and supported in any online forum in my life.

To the update though. I sat down last night with my wife. Soon to be ex I guess. It hurts to say still though. She talked to me for a few hours. It appears as though she had some time to calm down. She was still mean and cold towards me and it seemed like all she was doing was bragging about everything she has done. She told me everything. This also might answer some questions in the comments I’ve been getting. If you have anymore feel free to ask and I’ll answer as best I can.

She sat me down and told me the whole story. 20 years ago during the pregnancy and birth of one of our children it was the worst rough patch we have ever been through. We fought. Tiny things turned into big ones. Stupid fights. I was at fault for some things too. She explained that one day she just realized during this time that she no longer loved me. She claimed she originally planned to just leave me but She then decided to fake everything and that’s when things started to get better. From how she explained it she started to see me as a money machine. She could do whatever she wanted basically with my money and just pretend to love me. It wasn’t until about 4 years later that she realized how much I trusted her and how she could probably screw other guys without me realizing it. That’s when it all began. She started meeting up with people while I was at work. I found out also that she paid for a baby sitter a lot of times when I didn’t even know my children were being watched by someone else. She explained that the really good days between us and the vacations we took together were fake. She says she has even slept with people while we were on vacation and she left the room to go to the “pool” or the “store”. It hurts. To think that I thought all this time what we had was real and that instead she was just good at acting and lying.

She explained the whole situation about my son not being mine. That hurts and I can’t even talk about it.

She went into extreme detail about many of the affairs she had. Where she met them, what they did, how they ended, why they ended. It hurt. I can’t write down the details because how much it hurts. Maybe one day you guys will get that update. She rubbed everything in my face basically and ended it with telling me about how now she gets to take my house and my cars and there’s nothing I can or will do about it.

I have decided to take your advice though. I will fight. I have contacted two lawyers this morning and I am waiting for a reply. I have locked all cards and bank accounts and I am going to go change the locks to my house today and I have booked a week long hotel that I will be going to after work for the next week. I am going to send my son to his uncles house for the week while I figure everything out. The locks as I said are changed as she has been coming and going as she pleases. If she comes again I’m going to try to get her car keys from her and kick her to the curb if I happen to be here at the time. I am going out to buy some trash bags to put all her items in after I make this post and I will be throwing it outside. You have all inspired me not to accept defeat. I will try to win this.

I don’t know what happens next but I hope things get better for me. As I said I appreciate all the comments and please if you have any more advice I read all the way through every comment and I do take the advice given. If you have any questions I will answer them. When it starts to hurt less I may give another update on more of the conversation her and I had but if you’d like to know anything specific I will try to answer. Thank you all.

I also suspect that she is drinking again as she is a recovering alcoholic and she seemed very drunk while she was explaining all of this to me but I did not even bring it up as it is not my problem anymore. Hell, maybe she never stopped and that was a lie too. She has two DUI’s on her record, a charge for marijuana from many many years ago, and a charge for assault when she was 18. She also once told me she was arrested for having LSD when she was younger and a hippie in her words. I have never seen any police report about that though and I don’t see why she would lie so that may help me tremendously if it is still on her record because I believe she was a minor. I have nothing on my record at all except for one charge for disorderly conduct from when I was in my early 20’s being stupid with friends. so this all may or may not help in court.

Also. I did not let her know about any of this. Me fighting back. I would rather it take her by surprise so she does not have the upper hand. She also said she was going to start meeting with a lawyer next week so I figured I would get the head start by doing it ASAP.

I may head to the legal advice subreddit but a lot of my posts get removed on other Reddit’s so I’m not sure.