This is probably one of the only places where I can discuss this. There's a lot of talk/advice to women to seek an "equal partner". One of the preeminent voices (in terms of a voice that's influential to women) is Sheryl Sandberg - of "Lean In" fame. Here's her talking about it:

“When looking for a life partner, my advice to women is date all of them: the bad boys, the cool boys, the commitment-phobic boys, the crazy boys. But do not marry them. The things that make the bad boys sexy do not make them good husbands. When it comes time to settle down, find someone who wants an equal partner. Someone who thinks women should be smart, opinionated and ambitious. Someone who values fairness and expects or, even better, wants to do his share in the home. These men exist and, trust me, over time, nothing is sexier.”

― Sheryl Sandberg, Lean In: Women, Work, and the Will to Lead

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It appears as if this equality is a one-way street, seemingly solely addressing what men can do to make the relationship more "equal" for women. It also sounds like men can't expect anything from women (or they want to split these responsibilities with the man - even when it comes to sex men are expected to be accommodating), whereas the list of requirements for men grow by the day. Seem like more of a shit deal all the time.

Is the idea that the inequality in relationships has only ever favored men? Surely there are aspects of relationships that men would like to change, but that's never addressed in the search for "equality". So is this just a buzz word for women to get what they want? Do they really care about equality for all?