Another one learns the hard way

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So a lot has happened in a short span of time. Frankly my head is spinning. I’ll do my best to provide a comprehensive recap.

I got home the day I posted the last thread and I was prepared to confront her. Unfortunately she and the kids weren’t home when we arrived. My brother and I started talking and they returned while we were on the phone. I left the house to finish the call and she called 15 times while I was outside. I ignored her calls.

I got back inside and the fireworks began. We got into a verbally heated argument but I refused to back down. She was adamant that I was disrespecting her by asking her to contribute to the house and that I wasn’t a real man. She maintained her innocence throughout and continued trying to gaslight me. I wasn’t having any of it and I think she realized she had lost her grip over me.

She left the room, effectively ending the discussion. She slept in her daughters room. Around 11 am the next day she emerged from her daughters room, got her bathing suit and some beach items and took her kids out again without inviting my daughter, who cried as they left, begging to join them.

This is where things got wild. She and her kids never returned that day (Sunday). I assume they slept at the friends house who invited them over. I went to work Monday morning and dropped my daughter at camp per usual. I picked her up after work and we returned to the house. Literally all of their belongings were gone. She took about half the furniture in the house. And a ton of things that were mine she has since refused to return. I was floored...

There was no communication, no indication that she was leaving, nothing. I texted her and she said she wanted time and space to think about things and that I needed to respect that. She said she needed to consider if she could be with someone who didn’t want to fully support her and her kids...

I asked her for my $30k engagement ring back and she claimed she threw it in a lake! I don’t believe it for a second. She likely pawned it or intends to shortly. After consulting my lawyer and family I called the police to report what happened and file a report for my missing belongings.

The police have informed me that because she lived here for over a year and her license uses this address that the household belongings are as much hers as they are mine. My attorney disagrees and we are filing a civil suit to sue her. The ring is a separate matter. As I understand it, that’s a conditional gift in Texas and if we don’t marry it must be returned assuming I can prove her to be at fault for the end of the relationship. Even if I don’t win it will be a small victory forcing her to retain counsel and spend some money.

Obviously the relationship is over. Not sure if she realizes that but I have listed the house since it’s way too big for me and found a new place in the city. We move next Friday. I plan to live there while I get in therapy and fix my head. I don’t think this girl ever loved me. I was just a bank account and the minute I cut off access to my funds she literally LEFT. I’ve never felt so worthless and unloved. I’m not sure how to recover. Or trust another woman frankly. I thought she was my soulmate. I love her and am still in love with her. That’s how fucked my head is right now. I just hope it heals with time.

Love sucks.