This post is going to be discussing theory and strategies to maintain the sexual investment of the women most of us are looking to be involved with - young women, and why I believe not leading but dominating a woman physically and mentally is the most positive thing a man can do for himself and the women in his life. This is about maintaining regular, long term, satisfying sex and enjoyable overall relationships with the women you're sleeping with, whether they are plates or LTR's.

We all understand the often discussed and preached "captain-first-mate" dynamic. The idea that you should, ultimately, be the leader in all situations with the women in your life, while simultaneously allowing your women to feel like they are playing some sort of accompanying "helpful" role - that they are in fact to some degree having some influence over the direction of the relationship, even if they aren't. This dynamic makes sense to us as men - we think "this is the right, logical and fair thing to do, I am upholding my responsibility to behave as a RP man, and I'm simultaneously not oppressing the free will of my partner - I'm being fair in allowing her to believe she has some control over the nature and direction of our relationship".

As men we think this way because this is rational and this is how we ourselves would like to be treated, and we automatically assume that anyone else, especially a partner who we care about would want to be treated the same way. We believe we're doing the right and good thing.

It's my personal experience and first hand understanding that for the women we are most attracted to and looking to be involved with, whether that be in the form of plates or LTR, that is girls from 18-24, this dynamic is redundant, is not sufficient in maintaining sexual investment and thus emotional dependency/loyalty/adoration and needs to be replaced with a dynamic whereby you are the unchallenged authority figure in her life to which she looks up to and obsesses over. You must own her body and her mind.

Women see relationships as a well that serves as a source of unlimited and constant emotional and physical stimulation. We know this, we don't have to go into too much depth here. For young girls, a relationship is purely an arrangement in which she enters with the expectation that her needs for an external influence to give her life meaning and satiate her desire for constant mental distraction in the form of emotional angst and unpredictability will be met, forever, and that this guy will be able to provide that unwaveringly.

Young women want no responsibility in the direction or nature of a sexual relationship. They want to come along for the ride with you, and unconsciously hope to God that you and your life will be capable of providing that roller coaster that she craves. She does not want any form of responsibility - she doesn't want you to consult her on important decisions, she doesn't want you to ask for her input or to make her feel like she is an equal partner in your relationship. She doesn't want to be "first mate" or to feel like she has any sort of responsibility regarding the course or upkeep of the ship. When she enters into a relationship with you, be that monogamous or non-monogamous, she is essentially standing at your door with her bags packed, eager, excited, fingers crossed and ready, waiting for you to pick her up, rescue her from her mundane existence and take her on the adventure that is your life. Not "our" life, but your life. It is an entirely solipsistic, fantastical projection on their behalf. They need to submit to you, and they need you to constantly be reaffirming that in her eyes you are a man she not only wants to submit to but literally cannot help herself from submitting to.

A woman's investment in a relationship is contingent on her sexual dependence on her mate. It's a safe assertion to assume that women see the world from a primarily sexual filter. Everything is about sex. It's why ugly beta males are invisible to women - not just as men but as human beings. It's why sex is the first thing to go when a relationship ends, it's why every extended conversation with a woman ultimately devolves into sex.

Fair, rational behavior is the antithesis to sexual desire. As men, it would benefit us greatly to rethink how we conceive of "treating a girl right", even here on RP. We believe the embodiment of an alpha male within a relationship is to remain stoic and treat our women as capable, valued equals, except we hold the final say and what we say goes - this is the "alpha" kicker for us, if you will. Again, this is male hamstering and a male-only abstraction. None of this behavior translates to sexual attraction for women, which is the only language they care about or understand. They don't want or care about being conventionally respected or valued in the context of a sexual relationship, despite what they may tell you on a surface level, because they are there for sex and to be overwhelmingly consumed by emotion. Her investment on you is contingent on the degree to which she feels the overwhelming desire to fuck you and submit to you.

If a woman feels like she has influence and power in a relationship, she is repulsed. Even if you know that deep down you will always have the final say, she doesn't know this. To even give her the impression that she has one iota of power or say translates to sexual repulsion on her end, because it necessitates you having to relinquish some degree of your natural masculine drive to dominate and conquer, which you have already relinquished upon entering a monogamous arrangement with her. From this moment you're in damage control. A woman doesn't know that deep down you're thinking "it doesn't matter, I'll let her make the call on this one, I'm the man at the end of the day, anyway". All she is thinking is "this doesn't feel right, why do I feel like this", and her sexual investment and subsequent emotional dependency on you and your relationship steadily begins to drop.

The answer in regards to keeping your plate or LTR sexually invested and in turn obsessed with you is not to give her the impression she is an equal, respected player. It is to dominate her, physically and emotionally, to give her the experience on which she desperately hoped you would be able to provide upon entering into a relationship with you.

Physical Domination

  1. Fuck her hard. This is arguably the most important aspect of any relationship you have with a plate or LTR. Read Sex God Method.

Sex is everything. Make her feel as if you are overcome with primal desire, that she is a piece of flesh to be selfishly enjoyed by you, every time you have sex with her. Choking, slapping, bondage, and above all complete submission on her half. What happens in the bedroom sets the dynamic for how your relationship will be outside the bedroom. You are a deranged beast who is using her body for your own pleasure. This must be supplicated with actual skill, however. You must know how to fuck and pleasure her to a degree she remains completely submissive and dependent on you to make her feel like a dirty little fuck-toy who is at the mercy of a sex-obsessed, lunatic ape-Chad. Post-domination fuck is the highest point of human bliss attainable, in my opinion, and is what allows conversion to take place. (Discussed in SGM)

Every time you dominate her in bed you are giving her exactly what she exists for, what she fundamentally craves, and you are receiving exactly what you're in the relationship to experience. Complete, feminine submission of a woman and the worship and release of your natural male masculinity. The feeling of lying in bed, sweating, your heart pounding in your throat, with a woman who's just orgasmed multiple times and can't even move, your load blown all over her tits, lying next to you panting and staring at the ceiling with a deer in the headlights look on her face is the embodiment of Heaven for both parties.

Sex must occur whenever you want it. She must always be in the mood to satisfy you sexually, and if you're fucking her right and upholding your end of the emotional contract (which I will discuss after this) she will be. Never ask for sex, never ask about her feelings towards sex or your performance - never talk about sex unless it's giggling about much you enjoyed turning her out over the kitchen table while her mother prepares dinner on it that very evening.

She should have a primal, almost fear-like anticipation to sex with you. Don't even send her sexual messages. Keep your desire completely in the dark when not together, and make her fear the next moment she's with you. Talking about sex or negotiating anything to do with sex in a nonsexual setting, when she's not turned on, is repulsive on her end.

  1. Touch Her Constantly/Lead Through Your Touch

I don't mean tickling or playful cuddling. That is inherently beta male, hesitant and insecure. I mean hyper sexual hand-on-ass, guiding-hand-on-nape of neck when walking somewhere, grabbing her ass whenever you feel like it, slapping her ass, pulling her into you while you're waiting for the bus, hand firm on inner thigh when sitting next to her at a dinner. All of these actions convey ownership and reinforce a dominant-submissive dynamic. She is yours and she needs to feel like she belongs to you, and she needs to be constantly reminded that she is there as a source of your physical pleasure. You can't help yourself but to grab her ass, you're a wild pig and her body is irresistible to you.

You don't give a shit about what comes out of her mouth, you just want another go at her ass, to see her tits etc. She will playfully protest to your lechery but you must learn to ignore it and understand this is making her drip. With one of my exes, I made it a habit of literally ignoring everything she said in favor of physical groping. She would talk to me and I'd just ignore her and stare at her breasts, slap her ass, pull her skirt up and pretend like I wasn't even listening. I was a lecherous pig and she adored me for it. At dinner when I first met her parents, I sat next to her and had my hand firmly on her thigh under the table. She went to stroke my hand with her fingers and I immediately grabbed her hand and put it on my crotch, shit eating grin on my face while mid conversation with her sister.

This behavior not only perpetuates a constant sexual tension and desire while you're together, but it allows your woman to feel protected, safe, desired and most of all feminine - which directly translates to submission.

Emotional Domination

Here's where I'll probably receive some backlash. It is my opinion that we need to let go of all preconceived ideas of what "good" behavior constitutes in a sexual relationship. Sex is amoral.

Women operate on emotion and thus are infinitely more in tune with the spectrum and intricacies of human emotion compared to men. They relate to emotional differently to us. We believe to make someone feel bad, especially women, is an objective negative and should be avoided at all costs in order to maintain our access to vagina. This complete inverse is true.

I have a good friend who's in an LTR with a 23 year old girl. She openly boasts about him being "the best fuck she's ever had", and yet she is miserable and perpetually shit testing and disrespecting him at every chance, especially in front of other men. Her frustration with his supplicating beta behavior is palpable every time they're together to the point where it's awkward. She hits him, yells at him and constantly instigates fights with him and his reaction is to apologize and diffuse the situation, which only infuriates her further. He fumbles, flails and embarrasses himself every time they're together, because his philosophy is "treat her like a whore in the bedroom and a princess outside the bedroom", and he believes this is enough to keep her invested in him.

Give your plates/LTR's what they want and keep them on a never-ending rollercoaster. This sounds like work, however I assure you it isn't. It's extremely easy. Contrary to what the idea of "emotional domination" suggests, I'm not advocating forcefully and purposely messing with a woman's psyche through planned out games or seduction techniques etc. - that's too much work and is the transparent ploy of the desperate beta male. It's very simple. You convey your investment in the relationship as being one that is purely sexual, not emotional. And you do this through fucking her well and being physical with her at any chance, because the physicality (not just sex) translates to purely masculine desire and therefore comfort in her mind, reassurance that you are satisfied and happy with her for the time being.

Emotionally, you should be almost impossible to read. Your inner workings must remain a mystery to her, a puzzle she has to figure out, your brain and feelings towards her must be hidden wonders to her, things she lies awake at night contemplating and stressing over. Essentially, you own her mind by virtue of satiating her desire for emotional turmoil. You become a subject of her obsession through essentially doing nothing extraneous to you as a man - you fuck her right and behave as if she is your possession, and yet she can never sap the beta out of you in the form of emotional displays of investment because you're fundamentally not emotionally invested in her, because you understand she is there to physically please you and provide you with basic, positive human comfort because you know, and more importantly she herself knows that is all her biology affords her.

Disappear whenever you feel like it. Turn your phone off. Turn her down if you feel like it. Do whatever the fuck you feel like. Fuck her brains out, lie in bed with her laughing and cuddling, and then tell her the dress she just put on looks like shit on her and belongs in the bin, that you have to go drink beer with your friends in 10 minutes and watch her hamster explode. Tell her she can't go out to a party and explain it with nothing more than "because I said". Call her up at 4am to come and pick you up because you're hammered drunk and if she refuses hang up on her and ghost for 3 days. Then behave as if nothing happened the next time you see her and ravage her. Flirt with her mother, sister, auntie, grandma, talk shit about her dad if he's a beta. These are not negative things and this is not bad behavior. I have done every single one of these things and more, and in every situation it made the woman I was with obsess over me.

Understand that she is fundamentally with you to experience the full range of emotions she is afforded by her biology. She is relying on you to provide this experience. This means she is invested in you - your life, your behavior, your visions, your dreams. She doesn't come into the picture, because her existence is what she's trying to escape in the first place. She needs to feel that you yourself know this - that you get it, that she can rely on you to be yourself and if that means being a fucking asshole, then so be it.

As an alpha male, these aren't "playing games" and this isn't work. All of this comes across as "work" to men who don't operate in this mentality of abundance naturally, men who view this as changing their personality to suit a woman. If you are a redpilled man acting out of abundance this will be your default, natural, unforced behavior and you won't view it as bad or mean. It's just you. You will then understand and see that this is what the women in your life are craving from you and you'll experience the pure beauty of natural female submission. If you are satiating her desire for physical dominance that explicitly translates to your desire for her (comfort), and perpetuating in her a state of emotional ambivalence, you are almost expected to behave this way, and deviation from this behavior (reversion to blue-pill supplication) will come across as unnatural and disgusting. And that is fucking freedom, my friends.

I'll leave this open to discussion and input about other methods of conveying dominance, but these are the fundamental two concepts that I think are the most important.

In closing - forget the "first mate" idea. Young women don't understand it, care about it or want it. You must keep the women in your life sexually invested in you, above everything else, in order to necessitate an emotional dependency that allows her to remain loyal, happy, pleasant and above all submissive, and this comes via giving her biology what it screams for - complete masculine domination.