Scared to Date

punaltered · 2019-01-04T20:58:13+00:00

Thank you for your intrest in our sub. This is a male only space. Have a nice day.

wwstewart · 2019-01-04T21:15:32+00:00

I always get very nervous on dates because I feel like I'm not good enough and I'm being compared to other, better, women.

I will tell you this. If you're on a date with a man who is genuinely interested in you, he won't even be paying attention to the other girls. BUT...you are being compared and judged by all of the women around you.

Not all men will write you off that way. Some will. But don't misunderstand this sub...this isn't so much "what some men think of women now" as it is "women are actually like this in the majority of cases". Don't be one of those women.

That being said, a part of the MGTOW thing seems to be (and I'm new to this, honestly) accepting that we DO NOT need external validation from anyone. In truth...the same can be said for men and women...but women still crave the external validation (in my experience, the ones who say they don't are liars). Some men do as well, but we are far more likely to just shut that shit down in our minds and say "fuck everyone else and their opinion."

As a woman posting in MGTOW, you confirm that when you say "maybe I'm bored and just want to see the reactions". Does this make you less of a person than a man? No. Not at all. What it DOES do is confirm that we have cause for concern with your motives.

Either way, best of luck to you.

Tookarn · 2019-01-04T21:16:37+00:00

Regardless of your sex, I'd suggest focusing on becoming a better you and doing things that you enjoy. Dating is tough and not always worth the hassle. Good luck in your endeavours

SlowJellyfish1 · 2019-01-04T21:35:30+00:00

Punaltered, want to have more "real" dates that can lead to a life long partner? Better chance of having a nice family or a long term partner (not just the cock carousel?) - a romantic connection. Change society. Help change the divorce laws, rape laws, etc. start slut shaming women. Start talking about hypergamy. Start noticing and talk to people about how men and women are NOT the same. If society doesn't change, more and more men will go MGTOW and the more depressed you will be.

Every time a man treats you badly or only uses you for the short term. Just remember, you and other women are to blame.

xiaomismartphone · 2019-01-04T21:07:37+00:00

Maybe you're bored and just want to see reactions

Futile-Resistance · 2019-01-04T21:13:02+00:00

Wanting to procure resources from men, and men wanting to offer resources to women is a part of biology, I don't think there's a particular reason to be too bothered by that by itself. There's nothing anyone can do about hypergamy or briffaults law.

Certainly I could see men being extremely nervous about being Title IXed, if they attend the same university.

Good luck with the dating game.

DangZagnut · 2019-01-04T21:26:38+00:00

Will you have a problem? Statistically not. Will it be worth it in the end? Statistically not.

If you're going to do anything, fuck a townie, not a class mate. Getting accused by a townie requires the police, whereas a classmate means you're going to a star chamber of "listen and believe".

Don't catch feels, that'll fuck up your schooling, your goals, your direction, etc. You might as well have a heroin problem.

Fucking and dating is easy, just don't go for fellow college students. And don't go past casual.

caddydurb · 2019-01-04T21:42:06+00:00

You say your posting just to get reaction. I'd say that's point #1 you need to address, you're doing everything you can to get mens' attention and my advice is break yourself off that. You're in college, my advice is forget about dating, focus on school, and your career. Instead of spending, or wasting, time on trying to find dates start working out or find an interesting hobby instead. Improve and focus on yourself to be the best you can be so you don't have to worry about if a man is thinking about better women you know you are the best. And if a man is actually interested he won't worry about other women anyway.

As they say good things come to those who wait.

Gibits · 2019-01-04T21:43:32+00:00

So you want dating advice from men who have no intention of serious relationships or even any interactions with women?

As a young woman you really have little to fear in dating. Most of the onus is on the guy to impress you. If all yo my want is a fling or something causal then it should be very easy. Most women might be gold diggers but most men think with the wrong head so it evens out in you favor. And don’t let other people fool you, men prioritize looks and getting laid to a stupid degree. They could care less about anything else. Use that to your advantage.

But if you are searching for a husband then you also have lots of options that will satisfy your hypergamous needs. As an engineer student you should be surrounded by plenty of smart and potentially (in the near future) well heeled young men. I’m sure one of them would want to lock you down in blissful matrimony (if that really exists). There is a risk that his earning potential might not pan out but at similar age and sex drive finding mutual ground is easier.

Or go for an older guy who is already established. They are a safe bet right out the gate, no need to nurture them into being good providers. Older men are even more idiotic when it comes to younger women. They might not be as physically appealing as a young college student but they also demand less in the bedroom.

But you should be aware that you don’t have a lot of time to do this. Once you’re in you late 20’s or early 30’s you won’t have all the advantages anymore. Not only will your looks fade but your adaptability will also decrease. This means finding mutual ground, compromising (you know the foundation of any relationship) will be harder and harder.

TL;DR get hitched early when you’re standards are flexible and you’re still cute. Don’t slut it up during your best years.

Csedilla · 2019-01-04T21:34:16+00:00

You lost me at "Dont know why I posted this. Maybe I'm bored and just want to see the reactions idk."

If that's what you really think, then why the fuck should I care about your problems?

TaiYongMedical · 2019-01-04T21:45:16+00:00

" Dont know why I posted this. Maybe I'm bored and just want to see the reactions idk. Thanks for reading though".

Imagine my shock. wOw. U R SO SO SPECIAL GURL!

YASS KWEEN!!

TLDR: The bitch is bored. She wants to see reactions.

I trust our mods to deal with this vermin.

NPC74656 · 2019-01-04T21:49:37+00:00

So become a WomanGoingHerOwnWay

Focus on improving yourself and becoming the best person you can be.

If a man is looking to start a serious relationship with a woman he's going to want a woman worth getting not some random thot for a pump and dump.

Title	Scared to Date
Author	punaltered
Upvotes	0
Comments	24
Date	January 4, 2019 8:55 PM UTC (7 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/MGTOW
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