I was thinking about something that was bothering me about this girl I'm dating. It's actually because of my frustrations with her I discovered and am slowly becoming initiated into the ways of MGTOW.

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Background info:

So I started dating this girl about about 2 years ago. I thought she was the one! She was smart, funny, in shape, and responsible. "I'm in love" I would often tell my friends. She was always on top of her shit in college so I assumed she was low maintenance as she was different from the needy girls I previously dated [I was wrong apparently but this post is regarding another issue haha ]

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Anyways one of our first few dates she mentioned that she had never been to Disneyland. Fast forward to about 5 months into our relationship. It was February and I wanted to surprise her by taking her to Disneyland for Valentines day. I was a sophomore in college and I was also working crazy hours to make ends meet (pay my tuition and bills). So I Spent 1/2 the the money in my bank account buying the plane tickets, booking the hotel and getting the tickets to the actual Disneyland theme park.

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I took her out to lunch the next day to surprise her with my "awesome" present. During lunch I told her about our amazing future adventure! And the smile on her face turned to shock and I was caught off guard because that wasn't the reaction I was expecting. She then told me she couldn't go because her family wouldn't allow her to randomly to another state [something about her being Indian and that not being culturally acceptable] but it sounded dis-genuine; like she made that up on the spot. But I was rejected non the less. It felt horrible. I felt embarrassed. {Looking back I should have used that money to help pay for my student debt}. She did offer to pay her 1/2 so I put it under the rug but that still raised a red flag.

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Fast forward to Summer 2018. She ironically gets an internship in California. We had planned to see each other regardless. We together planned that she was going to visit once a month and a 1/2 [2 visits] because she was living on her own and her expenses were going to be higher and I was going to visit once a month [3 visits] I had also gotten my 1st internship and a little more money (not much tho; I was making only $100- $200 more then before; also my expenses didn't really go up at all)

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Important details:

I was making $15/ hr

She was making $25/ hr

We were planning on taking turns visiting.

But to better order the story I organized the story by "my visits" first then "her visits"

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My Visits{3}

First Visit : EXPENSES FOR BOTH PEOPLE TAKEN ON BY ME

In the beginning of summer we decided that we would take time off our internships and explore LA together on the 1st visit.

I took time off from my internship (Which did not make me look good in-front of my new boss because I had only been working for 2 wks. I had notified him in advance but he still seemed a little upset about it) I spent 1/4th the money in my bank account to go see her and hang out with her. Anyways I get there and wait for her to get off work in our Air B&B so we can explore the town.

She gets free we explore the town ect. and later that day I find out that SHE DIDN'T EVEN TAKE TIME OFF like we planned. I asked her why and she would awkwardly say that she didn't want to look bad in front of her boss! Like WTF???? I spent 1/2 the days of that trip just waiting for her to get off her internship at 3PM! At the end of our trip I litterly had to take an uber to the airport since she couldn't drive me there since her Internship was more important then our previously established plans.

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Second Visit :EXPENSES FOR BOTH PEOPLE TAKEN ON BY ME

In the beginning of summer we decided that we would take time off our internships and explore Disneyland together on the 2nd visit because her birthday would fall around that time.

I took time off from my internship again(Which did not make me look good in-front of my new boss again. And even though once again I had notified him in advance but he still seemed a little upset about it because summer internships are only 3 months so taking multiple time offs wasn't a good move) I spent 1/2 the money in my bank account to go see her and hang out with her. I even bought the tickets AGAIN as a birthday present. BUT SHE DIDN'T take time off work again for THE SAME reason. But LUCKLY that visit fell on the end of the week so we still barely had time to see the themepark.

As far as once we got inside the theme park she was rude and obnoxious at certain points. She even bluntly went as far to tell me she would NEVER get a tattoo of my name after I told her (because I thought we were having a "cute moment") I'd get a small tattoo of her name if I had money to blow. She didn't even have the curtisey to lie to me.

But what pissed me off the most was SHE WAS ON HER PHONE almost the WHOLE TIME. AND she KNEW I SPENT ALOT OF MONEY TO MAKE THAT VISIT WORK.

It as the worst experience I ever had at Disneyland "The happiest place on Earth".

I LITTERLY CRIED the last night of the trip because of how bad the trip was for me.

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Third Visit :

In the beginning of summer we decided that we wou... Actually it doesn't matter BC I HARDCORE FLAKED

And let me just say IT FELT SO DAMN GOOD TO FLAKE ON HER for once!

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Her Visits{0}

I'd tell y'all a story but SHE FLAKED ON ALL HER VISITS! Saying it wouldn't look good if she took time off...

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These events made me along with other additional events made me reailze that MGTOW was the way! You gotta focus on yourself! Women just use and take advantage of you. Their nothing more then a liability.

This is turning into a long post so I think I'll end it hear. I'd Love to hear feedback.

What would you do if you were in this situation? And going Forward?