I'm slowly throwing my life away and I dont know how to stop

captainsaveahoe69 · 2019-05-30T19:29:41+00:00

Son, stop doing all that shit. It's the reason you have no willpower.

Life is suffering, embrace it.

You can and will do it.

DangZagnut · 2019-05-30T19:40:49+00:00

Will power is irrelevant. You need commitment, not will power.

Commit to eating less, or going for a walk outside, or not masturbating every day and just do it every other day, small, manageable things, then commit to another small, manageable thing, maybe spend 30 minutes on a prep book or something.

It doesn't have to be huge changes, just little changes here and there that angle toward your goal of success. Small steps yield big changes. Just commit to them, and changes will happen.

2019-05-30T19:36:35+00:00

You sound like a person with a hell of a lot of potential, who has hit some major problems and need professional help.

Tell what you just told us to your GP, a psych, a personal trainer and your family in that order.

The longer you let this state continue the harder it will be to get out of it, and you will lose your opportunities to live a kickass life along the way. The most important thing you can do is get off the weed. We treat it as a soft drug because people don't OD and die, but if you have a psychological dependency its ability to cause and amplify other problems is profound.

VTOLfreak · 2019-05-30T19:37:57+00:00

Sounds like me when I was your age. Minus the smoking weed. Everything you are describing sounds like a major depression. You need to get professional help. I went into a out-patient program, 3 days a week. It took me over a year but I came out stronger as ever.

I suggest you do the same and search help. There's nothing anyone here or elsewhere on the internet can say that will make things better. Changing your life will take effort and time but it can be done. You'll likely have to suspend your education for a while (I did), but it's better to temporarily stop than just failing out all together. Talk to your school counselor, they have experience dealing with this stuff and might be able to work something out and point you to the help you need.

AeternusDoleo · 2019-05-30T20:03:35+00:00

Today I woke up at 7 to try and start fresh and hit the gym before going into work in the lab. The worst part? I woke up and laid in bed till 9:30, went upstairs and ate and didnt even end up going into work in the lab.

This tells me that you're not motivated to visit the gym or learn to become a physician. These things do not interest you, but you're forcing yourself to go through with them since you either put yourself, or worse, were put on that path by others. Ask yourself if you truly want the life that leads you to. If not, pull the ripcord before the crash and figure out what you *do* want. It is your life to lead, you are responsible for whatever fate you steer it to. Make sure it's a fate you enjoy.

BertTheWelder · 2019-05-30T20:12:19+00:00

You’re sabotaging yourself for a reason. What is it? Is there something about yourself you hate? Something about the path you’re on? You know what to do but are choosing not to.

It’s either situational or chemical. If it’s chemical, you can seek help and get medicine. If it’s situational, you need to commit to change the situation. Like others said, if you don’t want to be a doctor, stop working towards it now.

You only get your twenties once. These years should be good for you. But for that to happen you need to be good to yourself.

monkensteinxstupido · 2019-05-30T21:05:31+00:00

You want help.

Get up early in the morning,

And turn off the tv and internet. Keep it off all day.

See how you feel.

Then unless its business, no tv or internet. No smartphone.

In 3 days see how you feel.

CoinSwapTrader · 2019-05-30T19:41:56+00:00

start fasting to regain self control and build your will power!

Your belly should serve you, you must not be a slave to your brain or belly!

realChebz · 2019-05-30T20:12:34+00:00

Stop using excuses like will power, motivation etc.

It's an emotional problem.

Fix your emotions toward eating, porn, jerking off. Go through the misery, hit bottom. Reevaluate if you aren't a complete bag of shit and rise from the ashes.

If not at least stick around for your family and friends to point and use you as a cautionary tale of failure.

Been there done that.

Accept your emotions and find ways to deal with them. Start with growing a pair of balls.

walkersm · 2019-05-30T22:35:27+00:00

Who's idea was it for you to be a doctor? Yours? Or your parents?

2019-05-30T23:02:19+00:00

Sounds like you need a reboot. Where are the wise aged people (or even younger MGTOW) that you can lean on for help? Everyone needs these old farts once in a while because they have logic and perspective you don't have right now because you're full of emotion without discipline. Please friend, either kill yourself or get busy living. This in-the-middle crap is wasting both time and money. And I have zero fucks for indecision.

Jawbrahmyron24 · 2019-05-31T00:08:00+00:00

Hey everyone thanks so much for all the great replies and info. As far as what I'm going to do next I'm going to incorporate alot of the different advice given as follows:

-limit and taper off fapping while quitting porn completely (going to use an app to block the sites I frequent) while simultaneously finding ways to redirect that energy.

-deactivate/delete all social media atleast for the near future to give myself an extended break from my cell phone.

Start reintroducing caffeine, I finished finals approx a month ago. I had to give myself a tolerance break from stimulants because of the insane amounts of caffeine I was taking and the odd dexedrine to keep myself up. At some points i was up for 3 days at a time to get through all of my exams and do as well as I wanted too. Obviously this cycle isnt sustainable so I am going to try and build consistency throughout the year rather than short bursts of productivity followed by crashes.

-limit marijuana usage significantly to maybe one every two weeks or so. which is convienant as I have no more left anyways.

-put away/ possibly pawn my gaming systems, this is something I'm still thinking about but I want to at a minimum significantly limit its usage by putting it somewhere where the actually where it would take more to get it,plug it in and play it then the satisfaction I could potentially recieve from it. I feel like this is a good starting point but I'll have to periodically asses where I'm at to see if any other changes are necessary at the time.

realChebz · 2019-05-31T00:14:40+00:00

What works for me is small incremental changes. Don't try to turn your life 180 in a day. Make small improvements and build on them.

2019-05-31T07:06:24+00:00

If the phone is the problem, get rid of it.

Contrary to what society tells you, you don't need a phone. People have been on this earth a long time and have never needed phones.

As far as being physically fit, you need to find something that you really enjoy doing that is a heavily physical activity. I went from playing first person shooters to playing paintball and ended up preferring the latter so much I never play FPS games anymore.

thatMGTOWguy · 2019-05-31T09:26:17+00:00

I’m going through something similar minus the overweight (though I’m starting to get a fat belly and feeling overall slower than usual due to the weight/slouching) and weed part.

Emotional eating, using phone for 10-12+ hours a day, no self control, no discipline. I really need help but I’m going to fight it on my own. No friends, no family, still going through breakup, feeling lonely, have high anxiety and all that.

Major exam coming up in 5 months which can change my life and make my career. Starting tomorrow, I’m going to try to get my shit right.. fasting, trying to study, stay away from phone and move over everything burdening me right now. I don’t know how but I know how shitty it feels and I’m going to overcome this. I’m with you, man. You can message me if you want to discuss and talk more about things and just have an accountability partner or some shit like that. I personally don’t believe in that but I would be glad to help a brother out and just keep checking up if you’re doing well.

Title	I'm slowly throwing my life away and I dont know how to stop
Author	Jawbrahmyron24
Upvotes	12
Comments	27
Date	May 30, 2019 7:22 PM UTC (7 years ago)
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