Help please

TVTestPattern · 2019-05-29T17:11:35+00:00

You should not have a girl in college my dude.

Nothing good will come from it... as you have discovered.

We all understand you want a girl...

Delayed gratification is the path to the successful adult.

Purplmonky · 2019-05-29T17:12:12+00:00

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chokemo · 2019-05-29T17:14:22+00:00

Dude, leave. Take it from someone who just got their bachelor's a month ago. I couldn't imagine letting a relationship affect my grades. Whenever I had people drama and school stress I ghosted everybody until I felt my grades were safe. Some people understood, some didn't, some stuck around and some didn't. Life goes on, this girl does not want what's best for you in the long run if she's ignoring your wants now so why stay?

WolfUbuntu117 · 2019-05-29T17:12:42+00:00

Let her go, if she is not working with you then why spend time with someone that is costing money, bringing you down and maybe might be fucking her bestie in class while she gets her tattoos for free.

Docbear64 · 2019-05-29T17:18:32+00:00

I hate to be brash but I think it's the only way to get the point across here

if a woman says

"I don’t know what I want”

Then clearly the answer isn't you . She is telling you as subtly and yet explicitly as she can without using the words . If she got tattoos and you hate tattoos .. what does her behavior tell you that she thinks of you ?

At best she misunderstood just how much you disliked tattoos , at worst this was a direct act of rebellion against you specifically.

Closure is a myth , it would be nice if every relationship ended like a nice storybook ending but sadly they don't , people will die before you get a chance to tell them what they mean to you . There will be mysteries you will never have revealed to you in your life, there will be stories and experiences you never get to share with some people and that's ok . That's life .

People move in and people move out but regardless you still have to survive and prevail just the same .

She's done everything short of tell you " I don't love you anymore" but at what point is her actions not enough to tell you what her lips haven't ?

You will make it , you will move on , I think you are holding out for the verbalizing of something that she is saying loud and clear with her acts.

PrinceRaj53 · 2019-05-29T17:27:27+00:00

Hard next and move on.

Zachjsrf · 2019-05-29T17:59:52+00:00

Are some guys really this fucking inept? You know what you really wanna do, or ya know just do what I've highlighted below.

Marry her, Have some kids, get divorced, pay child support, be miserable. Is that not what you really want?

CAYF · 2019-05-29T17:12:46+00:00

Closure for what? There is no point.

While I'm sure it cant only be simply because of the tattoos. I mean that's not information.

But even with the slightest bit of info you have given, fuck her. If she knew you didn't like tattoos and got them without talking to you, she is shit testing you. The fact that she did it means the relationship is over. What closure do you want?

She is onto the carousel to ride dick/find another victim.

The question is what will you do now? Fuck closure the closure is her going to ride the cock carousel while you feel bad because you gave a fuck.

It doesn't make you a bad person because you gave a fuck and cared. You are however inadvertently cucking yourself if you continue to want closure while she doesn't even have the respect to give you a final discussion. The fact that she doesn't means she doesn't respect you. The fact that she did something you didnt like means she no longer sees you as someone she admires, respects, wants to fuck etc. Technically that previous sentence alone should be all the closure you need to move forward with your life.

Don't look back. GYOW

Ody_ssey · 2019-05-29T17:22:20+00:00

They never know what they want because they lack ambition and prioritise relationships over anything. You are also prioritising your relationship over your career. She just has to sit at the finishing line and fuck that man who finishes first.

Of course she will leave you some day. Unambitious girls can never become successful and independent. Negativity surrounds them and whatever they touch turns to ash.

Prioritise your career, start hitting gym and travel.

Marque01 · 2019-05-29T17:35:30+00:00

If you had a guy friend that, through his actions, cost you 2 credits, would you ever talk to that guy again?

AeternusDoleo · 2019-05-29T17:45:10+00:00

You should not expect any girl in college to be with you for the long haul. Those are youthful flings. Bright candles burn out the quickest - and holding a match to ashes won't reignite that flame. From what you write she no longer respects you and has already moved on emotionally. It would not surprise me if she's already seeing someone else. Harsh, but it wouldn't be uncommon. Closure is within your own authority, you do not need her permission to terminate a relation. If you feel you two are finished, tell her you two are finished. Mourn briefly the passing of a relation. Then move on.

Should you go your own way? Only you can answer that. It's up to you to make the cost/benefit analysis of a potential new relationship. The current one... if you stop and think about it for more then a few minutes I think you'll realize that what you have utterly fails this. It's costing you more stress then it is bringing you in happiness. Explore the red pill knowledge, learn a bit more. If you then want to apply that knowledge by going your own way, do so. That choice is yours - and yours alone.

mgtowguy2 · 2019-05-29T17:47:59+00:00

Closure? Closure?

Fuck, dude. Don't talk like that.

Fuck her. Just walk away. Cut all contact.

ConstantChinner · 2019-05-29T17:54:34+00:00

Block, ignore Ghost! It is the thing to do in 99% of all situations with a woman.

Tonyb33 · 2019-05-29T18:04:34+00:00

You want closure. Simply text her sorry this is not working out, I think we should stop seeing each other. Press send job done. Go to the next college disco have a few drinks and pick up someone else. End

cypresstalker · 2019-05-29T18:16:27+00:00

The only closure you need is the door closing after she walks the fuck out

KneeDeepThought · 2019-05-29T18:24:18+00:00

If she's ignoring you and saying she doesn't know what she wants... she knows exactly what she wants and it isn't you.

Take the hint. She's either already fucking someone or will be very shortly. Ghost her ass. Watch her go ballistic when she finds out you can ignore her too. Just keep your phone handy to record anything in case you need evidence.

pwnzusauce · 2019-05-29T18:30:47+00:00

Leave her, focus on your studies and what makes you happy.

You will in time learn to enjoy the solitude

realChebz · 2019-05-29T18:30:58+00:00

Just the fact you're asking that means you should have broken up months ago. Let me tell you, your relationship isn't going to get any better, it will only go downhill from here, so what are you waiting for?

TigPlaze · 2019-05-29T18:48:15+00:00

Dump her and move on. Build a great life.

TheRealEyesWideOpen · 2019-05-29T19:14:07+00:00

You owe her nothing.

Walk away.

Cut all contact and never look back.

Never get into a relationship that you can’t walk away from in 5min - therefore, never cohabitate, never procreate, never marry.

cycloneous · 2019-05-29T19:52:22+00:00

Why are you letting a female dictate how you should live your life? Secondly, why are you concentrating on a female rather then your grades? You're in college, you're there to educate yourself and not get distracted with a girl. Secondly, if she knows you don't like tatoos and she gets one any way, it means she does NOT respect you. Did you get that? Your "girlfriend" does NOT respect you.

If you bother to invest more time into this "girlfriend" you are putting yourself into a losing position where you are going to:

get married, then divorced and she takes you for alimony
have children, then divorced and she takes you for child support
buy a home, then divorced as she takes the home as part of the divorce while she invites, Chad, Tyrone, Pookie, Ray Ray and Lee Lee Longdong every night the week while you live in a rat infested motel

When she said, "I don't know what I want" that means she does NOT want YOU! In other words, she's probably has in her sights already another man she wants to bend her over six ways to Friday, and four ways before Sunday's confession all the while proclaiming "I've never done this before!"

Also, she is ignoring you? Even worse, that means does not give a shit about you.

You want closure? In the words of my unofficial father, Tom Leykis, it is time to Dump That Bitch and GYOW.

markentingh · 2019-05-29T19:58:36+00:00

You don't need closure from some idiot who cares less about you. Get closure from yourself instead, discuss your future with yourself, build a lasting relationship with yourself. Don't rely on some woman for comfort. Comfort yourself with your creative projects & surround yourself with people who believe in you.

LiveTheTruth321 · 2019-05-29T22:11:53+00:00

Go your own way and avoid relationships. No woman is worth the stress.

2019-05-29T23:26:53+00:00

Brace yourself, i'm about to drop some knowledge you won't like:
1- If she went ahead and got tattoos without your approval, and especially knowing you don't like them, you're already not the first in her checklist, she's probably fucking someone else, I would give it 90%.
2- If you had to come here to get a closure to end the relationship, you're already missing few balls, GROW THEM FUCKING BALLS, and tell the bitch you're done.
3- Don't get an other girlfriend in your age, focus on studying, you'll get more ass than the toilet seat later on.
4- I don't know what I want, is her reasoning with her fucked up logic that she's is about to or already fucked an other dude. (N°1 stat, grows to 95%).

Title	Help please
Author	Purplmonky
Upvotes	16
Comments	40
Date	May 29, 2019 5:04 PM UTC (7 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/MGTOW
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