Field Report: Escalate, Approach, Walk Away.

The Red Pill Fixed Me

It was about a year ago I found TRP; all via accident. I wasn't looking for women; wasn't interested in game and frame – I learned about how it had some element of Men's Rights: I subscribed. After not really paying attention to any of TRP posts for a month or so, I started to ask myself why exactly I subscribed to this subreddit. If I remember correctly, a field report resonated with me and my past – maybe there was something to learn – and then I started to go deeper.

"Women should love me; I do all the things they want." – I did the opposite of what they wanted. I was the opposite of what they wanted: a nice guy, long hair, overweight in the wrong way, acne. Neck beard: yes. Incel: yes. Kissed a girl: no. Hugged a girl: no.

Over the next year, I changed. I started playing Rugby. I improvised weights by filling a school bag with books. I started getting confident with girls. I became an asshole. Still, it didn't help. I was still kiss less, no girl above a 5 cared for me. About a month ago I joined a gym; about a fortnight ago I cut my hair: a week ago I travelled to Turkey for a holiday. Oh, and I'm 14.

The Approach

"I have confidence; I'm just lazy – that's why I'm not approaching girls." – I was lying to myself to save face. For the first 3 days, I just looked at girls up and down – too scared to get rejected. Too scared to approach. My hamster would make excuses for me, "They're with their parents; I can't approach them!". "They're probably going to be 12.".

Fortunately, I had some sense talked into me from Dorman; a trusted member on the unofficial RP discord server I moderate. "Go and approach.". It still took me 2 more days to approach – then I did it.

I first saw her laying on a Lilo on the pool. Looked her up and down – well, across – and thought that she was way above my SMV. I swam across the pool a few times, played with my elders and had a fun time. A few times I noticed her eyeing me up; though we never held a stare – she always looked away. IOI #1. I could have approached now, and I should have, but it doesn't matter.

The area where you get your lunch is a large, wooden area with a variety of food. I didn't eat; but I noticed her walk through. Her parents sat and she went to get food – "Funny, there's so many tables and they sit there.". She came back and took the seat which looked directly at my table: "Of course.". I naturally look around, then we lock eyes. She looked away – again – but I kept my stare. As soon as she looked back, she smiled – so I smiled. IOI #2. And an obvious one at that. When a girl does that, she's begging for you to talk to her.

Back to the pool now; her sun bed was located on the opposite corner compared to mine. Looking back, my next move was for even more confirmation to approach her – but it also was a way to get her alone. One of my main problems is approaching girls whom are with their parents. The mid-point was between us was the bar – so I got up, stretched, then strutted over to the bar to get myself a coke. Lo and behold, as I was getting my drink, she came up to get some water out of the fridge. I thank the barman for the drink then turn the corner to get some waters, almost slipping on the floor. She left with some bottles as I got mine – "Excuse me.".

I'm a firm believer in just saying "Hi" and letting your brain switch off being the best approach – though I had enough IOIs to confidently get straight to logistics. "What's your name.", "How old are you" – surprisingly my age, "Where are you from", "Meet me tonight at x at y time.". I was in. All her answers gave me confidence – all her answers implied interest. I went back to my sunbed, drank my coke, and came to terms with what just happened: cutting my hair fixed my SMV, I'd have never got her if I didn't.

The Walk

The date I set was hours away; way too long. I needed to do something; so I did. I took the ball I was playing with earlier, swam over to her sunbed, muscled my way up to the decking – "[Name]". I picked the ball up and fell back into the water: fucking owned it. "Want to come play?". She obliged. As soon as she got in the water she complained about being cold – perfect excuse to escalate by giving her a hug. I didn't ask, I didn't hesitate, I just did it. We began talking more and her jaw starts trembling – we flirt by splashing each other with water and throwing the ball at each other's heads without caring if it hurts – I went light on her. I suggest we go for a walk, "But I just got in, it will be cold if we get out!" – "We're going for a walk; I'll meet you by your sunbed." I say with confidence and certainty.

The walk was a fantastic way to get her alone again. I knew that my parents were watching, I knew hers were too. After I led her around, we sat by a picnic bench. A mistake I initially made was sitting in front of her, ruins all opportunity to escalate. We talk, I get up and tell her to move over – she does. I wrap my arm over her shoulder – no resistance. I turn the topic to whether or not she has a boyfriend – "No, do you have a girlfriend?" -"It's complicated." I say as I lower my arm to around her waist and my hand onto her thigh. I never had a girlfriend; I'd have never kissed a girl – I was not going to tell her that I was inexperienced. She wanted to know what I meant about it's complicated and started guessing, so I called her nosey yet she persisted. I laugh and tell her that the girl I was with won't accept the fact I don't want to be with her anymore. This was, in my eyes, the best way to keep frame and show her that I have options – I didn't have options; but she didn't know that. As I feel her upper leg she asks, "What about your 'girlfriend'". "She doesn't exist anymore." – we were then interrupted by one of the holiday reps telling us there will be lots of little kids coming in the next five minutes – we bailed. All throughout that time she was looking around and getting distracted; but I ignored it and kept escalating.

We kept walking, encountered a few shit tests which are too specific to really cover; I just used amused mastery and A&Ad my way through them. Arm always around her. I threatened to throw her into the pool on the way back: picked her up and carried her to the pool side; but I didn't. We parted at the bar, "Do you know what I want?" my voice lowered naturally my hand laid on the small of her back. "A hug?" – "No, more than that." I teased her with a kissing motion and left her to go back to my family.

The Date Later

Besides seeing her in the dinner hall, I hadn't seen her for a couple of hours. In that time, I refreshed myself on LMR and ASD; she had an ASD that I wasn't going to be able to penetrate as I was leaving the next day, mainly due to her past of being pumped and dumped by her ex-boyfriend: though I know that wasn't the full truth.

As I was walking to the meeting point, she called my name and came up behind me. She was dressed up, a definite 8-9 depending on preference – she does modelling. My arm instantly went around her so she knew I wasn't playing around. I led her around, acted aloof and made sure I did what I wanted to. We exchanged numbers and snapchat details and I led her to a secluded area which had sofas and was just chill. Though her phone never left her side, she was addicted to plastering me over her snapchat – she was probably using me to get back at her ex-boyfriend and to get social proof for her friends but… Briffaults law. I was getting what I wanted whether she was using me or not.

Whilst I sat next to her I got familiar with her stomach and thighs. I turned the conversation sexual, but she wasn't receptive. I needed a way to get her interest back. I started to stand up and leave. "I was led into thinking that we would do something. It was nice knowing you." I walked out of the hut we were in then she called my name. She came up to me, I placed my hand on her arse and pulled her crotch into mine.

The power of walking away and withdrawing attention asked her the question: is he worth it. Her answer was based on just how Alpha I was and where she placed me – friend or sexual partner.

Lessons Learnt

• APPROACH – I probably saw at least 40 other girls who were interested in me over the week I was there, yet I didn't approach them. Some even gave obvious IOIS, yet I did nothing to act on it.

• NEVER TELL HER YOUR INEXPERIENCE – To all of those that were like me, don't tell her no other girls liked you. It will kill their attraction.

• ESCALATE – I could have easily been put into the Friend/Beta Orbiter category, but I escalated straight off the back.

• WALK AWAY – If you're not getting what you want, and are getting nowhere with her, walking away will save you from wasting your time.