Been GMOW for over a year now, but I still value how women think of me

Musket_22 · 2019-05-17T20:31:14+00:00

It comes down to an insecurity at some level. You just have to find out what that reason is and address it logically. Also ive noticed that guys that worry about what girls think of them often think of what guys think too. It isnt just women. Keep working on yourself and be the best version, slowly over time you will notice that you dont give a shit what anyone thinks, men or women alike

Dadeh · 2019-05-17T20:46:28+00:00

I think for some of us it's easier to embrace and stay stoic in our resolve going our own way.

What keeps me going is the constant reminder of my child's mother and her deplorable actions that she continues to make towards me regarding my child. A better redpill reminder than any Youtube video compilation, sandman, or sunrise hoodie could ever give me.

That and I've been around the bend more than a few times, I found myself slowly getting off that pussy on the pedestal type of mentality or valuing the words of a woman when I started to spin plates. It seems like they're all scripted with the same plight, the same woes, and the same talking points. The things I used to enjoy talking to women about are now a chore (that's if I have to talk to them)

I found more value in hobbies, my own daydreams, and going out of my comfort zone to find new things to enjoy in life other than pussy and the approval of pussy.

Once you strip away the fact that all you really care about is getting the ass and not the person attached to them, it makes it quite easy to disregard every thing else they say or do. You'll always have a sense of romanticism, especially if you're relatively young. Growing up around the Disney princesses, the entitled harlots, and the constant reminder that they are to be empowered and respected. (The respected part is why you believe their word holds value)

I've had my hands burned one too many times, two kids with two different women. A constant looming over my head knowing that they can and have been taken from me no matter what I do. The fact that the family courts are a joke, drive thru child support exist, and the overwhelming increase in child exploitation has kept me strong in my resolve.

I guess what I'm saying is that you need to find out what about yourself really means the most to you. Something that you're not willing to give up, find something within yourself that you love, and in doing that.. you'll realize that staying MGTOW is the best way to go. As far as your feelings and want of female approval..You can say that it will fade over time, usually if you get burned hard enough, or when you get older and your big head takes over.

Sometimes it takes carving our own mistakes to truly see how the world really is. Sometimes we can take the mistakes and life experiences of others and internalize it..You can continue to chase the female validation but understand that you'll never get validated from something that needs constant validation themselves. You'll never get what you want from them because Men and Women love differently.

I didn't mean to write a book but I hope it helps in some form. Stay strong brother.

user_miki · 2019-05-17T21:32:46+00:00

Nice guy .They will use that against you.You are a snack for women.They will eat you and spit you out like like a piece of bone stuck in their teeth.Validation you find only in yourself,nowhere else.

MuleFool42 · 2019-05-17T21:48:03+00:00

You should never care what anyone thinks of you, the only person that needs to be happy with you is you. So there's something going on with you because nobody else can provide happiness for you.

Also, we're human and need connections. So if you're one of those guys that's better off having a meaningful, intimate connection with a woman, then do so. Not all MGTOW are monks.

Just don't marry her or move in with her or agree to pay for and/or adopt some other dude's kids. If she doesn't respect that and tries to manipulate you back to the plantation, then she doesn't really care about you anyway, and you should bolt and find someone else.

But start with yourself.

KneeDeepThought · 2019-05-18T09:49:14+00:00

Men are hard wired to seek female approval. This gets us access to procreation so natural selection creates this drive over time. So no, it will never completely leave us, it's part of our genetic programming.

But, now that we know that's why we seek approval it makes it easier to go "oh yeah, now that I think about it, I don't need her approval after all."

JMD173 · 2019-05-17T21:21:58+00:00

Watch "Your DNA won't let her go" on YouTube https://youtu.be/a23TL0sjEws

Here's some great insight on your feelings and why you have them. Made it much easier for me.

Chad_Thunderfist · 2019-05-18T01:49:01+00:00

It took me far too much thinking, near-suicide, therapy and lexapro for me to finally realized that I was that way precisely because I cared too much about what others thought/think if me.

My suggestion? Open up, be free (act how YOU want to act)--consequences be damned.

It (not being hyperbolic here) literally saved my life. I'll never go back to being insecure about myself, because that road leads to death, for me. It's my suggestion, to you

HODL_FOR_DEAR_LIFE · 2019-05-18T08:36:14+00:00

I dunno I must be in the minority here but I love when woman are attracted to me. I spent most of my teens and early twenties as undesirable and overlooked. I've worked hard as fuck on myself and been through some difficult times. Now I've got some gym gains, multiple hobbies, good paying job and I get those feels from woman. I enjoy the validation but give nothing back in return. It's great to reject them for once.

Title	Been GMOW for over a year now, but I still value how women think of me
Author	TaoTao_Mona
Upvotes	17
Comments	12
Date	May 17, 2019 8:25 PM UTC (7 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/MGTOW
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