Right now you are probably celebrating because you "got the girl." For a major chunk of our relationship, you pursued her and expressed interest in her many times. From the moment she told me about you and how often she was messaging you, I knew that you would be trouble and most likely the end of my relationship. I trusted my gut. I told her I didn't want her hanging out with you, yet you persisted and and hung around like a turkey vulture waiting to swoop in and take the leftovers. This is exactly what you did. Within 3 weeks of us ending things, the two of you are together. You solidified why I was so justified in removing that trash of a child from my life. I'm letting you know that all of what you did during our relationship, the hanging around and constant messaging trying to seem like the superior male, is pathetic and quite frankly sad.

I do not hold any of this against you however. A few years ago I was in your shoes. Any hint of affection or attention from a female would cause me to behave the exact same way you did. I would chase and chase and chase in the hopes that I would be the knight in shining armor to swoop in and win the girl after she broke up with the "controlling asshole." It feels good knowing that they chose you over the "controlling asshole" they were with. You think all is well and just and the fairy tale love story has begun and that you have solidified yourself as the better man and that the nice guy got the girl in the end. What you have failed to consider though is why she is with you now instead of me. We're both decent looking guys, we both have good stable jobs, we're both personable people, so what is it? It's the simple fact that you are willing to give her what she wants, not what she deserves.

Like I said above, I don't hold any of this against you. In fact, I feel for you. You are going to experience the nagging, the whining, the insecurities, the projections, the hypocrisy, and the all around bullshit that comes with her. YOU will experience this, just like me and all of her exes before me have experienced. Oh you think that you will be different and that you wont have to deal with it? No, you will put up with all her bullshit and tests for most of your relationship because you're a good faithful man right? Eventually all of the frustration and rage that you've suppressed will finally be too much for you to handle and you will snap. You will call her out on all of the bullshit illogical crap that she has been doing since the beginning of your relationship. "I don't want you hanging out with that guy, he expressed interest in you and it is disrespectful and wrong" you will say to her. Sound familiar? At that point in her eyes, you become the "controlling asshole" that you always hated and distinguished yourself from, but "how is that controlling" you'll say. You'll experience the double edged sword of bullshit she will throw at you, you either allow her to run into another guys arms or you become that controlling person she oh so despises. And no she will not listen to your logic. You see her whole life her shitty behavior has been enabled by shittier people telling her that she can do whatever she wants and that she will eventually find a guy who tolerates her and likes her for who she is. You'll experience this to the point where you end things because you have finally realized, after however long it takes and after how many waves of bullshit you've endured, that you have become me. You realize that she has done this before and now it is happening to you. You'll be angry because you realize you aren't different and are just another number in her life.

She will move on very quickly from you. It will hurt because you know you are a good man and that you thought you were different. The thing is, you are different, we all are. But she is the same and will stay the same for the rest of her life. So going forward in your relationship with her, don't take care of her, take care of yourself and keep a watchful eye. When it happens to you, we can talk and grab a drink together. Good luck friend.