This has probably been said on here before so it’s not really an original thought. But here goes.

Be fucking passionate when expressing yourself!

I catch myself many times, monotonously talking and just being boring as fuck, it always lacks that spark.

I remember the last time I was expressing myself with so much enthusiasm and passion (was alcohol induced), and noticed how my fuck buddy at the time just looked so mesmerized by me, although I couldn’t really pin point why she was all of the sudden looking at me that way.

Try this right now if you’re by yourself.

Take a deep breath (into your gut) while opening your body up and pushing your arms up into the air and out to the sides with your palms facing up, as if you were a king.

Now start talking to yourself. Just pretend you’re having a conversation with someone, heck you can even talk to a damn chair.

Like... Hey chair, what’s up, you know - I had a pretty rough night. Probably shouldn’t have drank so much alcohol, but it is what it is.
You know what I like about life? You can make mistakes and still bounce back. Anyway, I’m outta here, headed to the gym. So catch ya later!

That’s probably weird as fuck, I know haha.

But as I was doing it, I was more attuned to my body instead of being stuck in my head, because I was breathing correctly (something I forget to do at times), I was being expressive, using my face, gesturing, using my hands, moving my shoulders, slightly moving my head from side to side as those words (however asinine they seemed) flowed out of me. Of course, calibration is important.

You could be talking shit, but do so with passion. This probably sounds ridiculous. But replace uncertainty or the fear of not knowing what to say, or when you don’t even 100% believe in what you’re saying, with passion and see how it draws people to you. They just light up and are intrigued.

Had a friend back home. Dude wasn’t a looker, and his body language wasn’t great, but when he spoke, he did it with so much passion, even though sometimes he was bullshitting, you couldn’t help but get drawn to him.

Anyway do what mostly resonates with ya.