Is it possible to have Oneitis on two girls at the same time?
What I mean is, we are all familiar with Oneitis, and we all should know how dangerous it can be.
A bit of backstory here: I have had Oneitis multiple times throughout most of my life, usually moving on from one girl, after having obsessed over her for years on end, to the next. Becoming Red Pill-aware years ago has helped, it didn't completely help cure my Oneitis but it has made me learn to recognize my problems. After months and year of trying to apply TRP principles I have managed a small degree of success: Lost my virginity to a 16-year-old slut at the age of 23, which was an achievement in itself, actually went on dates and have had younger girls crushing over me. Never having had any success with girls for most of my life, I grew complacent, stopped reading on TRP (never invested myself in the subject too much, so I didn't think much of it and started thinking life was going to keep being good; big mistake) and then as a matter of fact I tend to relapse to my Blue Pill habits occasionally, each time resulting in dire consequences. Most recently my Blue Pill ass managed to fuck up the relationship with this one girl (first girl I ever successfully picked up and got her number for subsequent dates) due to developing Oneitis for her.
I won't go into details here, though I must say it was the worst, knowing exactly what I was getting myself into by behaving in my Blue Pill manners, yet still making those very mistakes. Essentially got myself friendzoned, realizing what is happening, didn't want it to continue, so then I decided to call it quits and professed to her in my awkward ways, got a rejection (obviously!) and reacted very badly to it. I decided that was that and started reading TRP again.
This also happens to coincide with the time I started a new job and got to know another girl at work. Cute, but in a different, more feminine and intellectual way, as opposed to the previous girl who's also quite smart but has a much cooler character. (Yes, I do realize how blue-pill idealistic that sounds.) With the same attitude that I approached the previous girl with, I now want to try developing something with this girl as well, learning from my experiences with girls from the past. The thing is, I think I kind of like her, even though I very clearly already really like the other cool girl.
And then there's this nagging feeling in my head that says both of them are very special. Special in their own different ways. And of course I want to bone both of them, being totally honest. It's just some part of my mind keeps wanting to see them as something special.
Isn't this really weird? It feels similar to Oneitis, as I still am a hopeless romantic who fantasizes all the time about my life with a girl, yet I have that feeling for not just one but two girls simultaneously. And at the same time, I am not that scared of getting rejected by either of the girls that much any more. It is still scary, but now that I have gotten one too many rejection, and still got up and kept going (I have recently started lifting and have been taking better care of my diet as well as my looks), it doesn't feel like the end of the world any more. Because now I know as scary as it might seem, I can take a rejection and stand back up and come back for more.
Time to go get myself out there and get rejected again, I guess.
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