How do you guys counter the fear of becoming ’the lonely old man’

Phantom_Spark · 2019-04-08T01:01:50+00:00

Stop caring? You make friends and focus on your hobbies and things you want to do. Better to be alone than with someone that makes you want to die sooner.

801735 · 2019-04-08T01:03:14+00:00

There is no such thing as loneliness. Perhaps a moment or evening, once or twice a year.

Besides, Robin Williams...

Vaxel00 · 2019-04-08T01:07:14+00:00

You will become and old man anyway, women can't love you so you will die alone anyway.

Your fear of the inevitable is irrational.

tdh792 · 2019-04-08T01:13:26+00:00

Go to your local senior home. They are all sad, depressed and lonely even though none of them were likely MGTOW.

They have kids, they have grand kids, but they only see them once a year.

You're not going to save yourself from that destiny no matter what you choose.

thebusdweller · 2019-04-08T01:14:34+00:00

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DangZagnut · 2019-04-08T01:04:20+00:00

Only people desperate for social validation and can be alone either thoughts get lonely, just like only boring people get bored.

Everyone gets old or does trying.

It’s also hilarious to assume a marriage would last that long and you’ll be happy, or you’ll have any meaningful relationship with your kids.

Happybobnvagene · 2019-04-08T01:09:27+00:00

That was fake indoctrination.

Women normally would isolate you from any intelligent opinions. Now in the day and age of internet, men banded together, sharing extremely valuable knowledge and experience.

Everyone dies alone, unless it’s a bus/plane crash. Most older women resent their husbands, the constant nagging, that’s why men check out early.

Death is freedom. Back to infinity.

Western civilization only focused on outward comfort. They did a great job!

These talented motherfuckers Never bothered to turn inwards.

That’s a big problem.

Turn inwards and you’ll find out! Fear is gone!!

marcopoloman · 2019-04-08T01:44:54+00:00

I love being in total isolation.

ciyfer · 2019-04-08T01:33:51+00:00

You will always have us

treble-n-bass · 2019-04-08T01:35:30+00:00

Not afraid of being alone at all. I’ll be fine being a solitary old man. I’m a solitary middle-aged man, and I absolutely love it. If I get to the point of where I am no longer able to take care of myself (grocery shop, drive, get out of bed on my own, walk, jack off, lift things, etc.) then I’ll take my own life... cuz self-sufficiency is a freedom that I refuse to live without.

Older_Miggy · 2019-04-08T03:13:31+00:00

There's a difference between lonely and alone.

Quit obsessing over the future and work on yourself NOW.

Nearly everybody dies "alone." It's part of life. Put your thoughts into something more productive.

P.S. I'm alone most of the time and pushing 60. It's great being able to do what I want when I want.

SekaiNoHeipo · 2019-04-08T03:16:37+00:00

When I acquire that fear I'll let you know

GoHurtMyFeelings · 2019-04-08T04:57:40+00:00

When you realize a woman will actually never truly love you and are only with you because you provide them something. Eventually you will stop caring about pursuing something that will never love you.

jerry408 · 2019-04-08T06:12:40+00:00

Hey man I once had this feeling too. I am a loving man. I enjoy and care about people. Unfortunately, most human beings don’t share the same sentiment. Also most people you get close to will let you down in some shape or form.Once you accept the fact that all people look out for themselves and their own well being than you will be at rest knowing that even though you are alone there are so many people lonely even with a million people surrounding them. Alone is in the mind. For me my dad was my super hero. Once he died I felt a lone for so long. I miss him dearly. But I honestly feel less alone knowing that he loved and cared for me a lot. I am just like my dad. I can still feel his love within me. So when I think about him it’s like he’s here still with me. I tell him I still love him and think about him. This makes me feel happy.

In the end we all have to transition. We all gotta die. Keep love in your heart. Know that you will be ok. Know that no one here makes rules as to which way one lives.

Keep love in you and never let it die. No matter how much pain love brings you. But don’t get me wrong. Those who hurt you must be far from you.

So to you I say. Loneliness is not what you don’t have in your eye but what you have in your heart. Do not fear of being your own person do not fear the unknown. Embrace your love and embrace life.

Good luck friend

MGTOWards · 2019-04-08T06:22:25+00:00

There is a good chance you end up alone even if you marry.

Think about it. If you marry, there are three outcomes:

You divorce.
You don't divorce, and you die first.
You don't divorce, and she dies first.

In two of those situations - 1 and 3 - you end up alone again. And then you have the option of staying alone, or marrying again. If you marry again, you're back to the same three options.

Given how many marriages end in divorce, it seems likely to me that there is a good chance you end up as the lonely old man anyway.

With that in mind, think about what kind of old man you want to be.

If you marry and divorce, you (probably) end up as an old man who looks back on his life with bitterness and regret, full of stories about what a hag his ex-wife was, resenting her. You're probably scraping by - my father lost half his pension to my mother in the divorce; ain't family court great - and that sucks. Maybe you lost your kids in the divorce.

So, you're lonely, poor, and resentful. Sound like fun?

If you marry and she dies, then you end up sad. Maybe - hopefully - you're looking back on a life you enjoyed, but it's tinged with sadness for the woman you lost. It's not as bad as the first situation, sure, but it seems sad to me.

If you go MGTOW early, then you can be whatever you want. You're the old man who has a story about the time he motorcycled across country because he wanted to. You're the guy who spent his life fixing up old cars and selling them to celebrities. You're the guy who decided to emigrate one day, and spent twelve years as a Patagonian sheep farmer.

You wind up interesting, unusual, and fulfilled. And you haven't really lost anything, so there is less sadness, I would think.

But then again, I rarely get lonely and I basically fundamentally hate people. So, take what I say with a pinch of salt.

mtamez1221 · 2019-04-08T01:36:19+00:00

When I think of that I think of peace and quiet. Value that and you’ll grow to appreciate it. That’s peace, not fear. Friends, hobbies. Doing what I want when I want. Imagine a lifetime of that. Thankfully I’m only in my early twenties, I couldn’t imagine years of ‘happy wife happy life’ syndrome. We all die alone anyways. Difference is how we enjoy life now until the inevitability of death. What your quality of life was is what’ll matter in the end.

Hypnotix0000 · 2019-04-08T01:52:15+00:00

Just remember, age affecting medicine will be a thing soon so you'll be able to stay younger and healthier longer while taking advantage of advanced travel to do basically anything you could ever want. Imagine 40+ years of living the way you want without any catches or gimmicks regarding family issues.

RedMeatTrinket · 2019-04-08T01:54:56+00:00

I embrace it. I pray to God to please make me lonely just once. Everybody is asking me for everything. I'm sick of it. I want peace.

DigitalScetis · 2019-04-08T02:03:45+00:00

Simon and Garfunkel sang it best, in one of the greatest songs a MGTOW could hear:

I am a rock. I am an island.

You become a sublime creature of ancient bearing, wisdom, and gravitas. It is not a role for everyone. But it's not a bad role.

2019-04-08T05:28:26+00:00

I distract myself with entertainment.

TheBrokenSigil · 2019-04-08T05:32:40+00:00

masons shriners eagles or whatever your local fraternal order is called. make friends in your area. if you served your country over seas during war time you can hit up the VFW. volunteer locally "stay away from helping women or kids" you might get accused of something. work on cars and go to car shows or sell them for profit. buy a house and rent a room out to some poor kid having trouble finding housing during college. or allow a foreign exchange student to stay with you for six months.

but all you have to do is ask yourself am i lonely because im alone or because the people around me make me feel alone.

gamernumber37 · 2019-04-08T09:44:24+00:00

Enjoy life to the fullest, and accept death knowing you enjoyed life.

nigelh · 2019-04-08T09:47:21+00:00

I'm old, I live alone but I have friends and family.
You have to do it to know how good it is.
There is 'my money', there is 'my time' and there is 'my stuff'.
If I want to sit and read all day I can. I can take the hawk out and let her take a rabbit or just go up the gliding club if I want. I have some big projects on atm but the only fixed routine in my week is doing lunch with my brother.

This 'retired' gig is awesome.

Xiphwork · 2019-04-09T22:28:37+00:00

Name me one lonely old man.

GrisBosque · 2019-04-08T01:36:22+00:00

'cause its way way better to have tranquility than a blathering idiot that wont shut up...

Try a parrot on steriods and speed at the same time...

Lonely? you mean relief right?

open your bleeping eyes and ears....

Humanity sux, women are the professionals at suckie...

Solitude mixed with having a dog, is as close to Nirvana as you can get in this Universe of blathering self centered idiots...

Do I here an "Amen" brothers?

DiabolicAvenger · 2019-04-08T10:04:20+00:00

The whole Hollywood idea of the accomplished old man dying of old age surrounded by his wife, kids, and maybe grand-kids is romanticized. I think of it akin to societal conditioning like the idea of the perfect romance story, its a 'perfect' story thats meant to be romanticized and idealized.

I was an altar boy as a younger man, and I had a 'side hustle' of serving funerals. I must have served hundreds of them over almost half a decade , and of all those stories told of how the person passed, only ONE of them had the story book death of being surrounded by friends and family. Every other person whos funeral I had the privilage of serving, they either died in an accident, sudden fatal medical emergency, or they died in their sleep.

Long story short, that kind of story book death is EXTREMELY Rare, yes it does happen, but you'd have better luck winning the lottery back to back, getting struck by lightening twice, and then getting killed by sharks at the beach.

So I dont sweat it and accept that when I die, in some way shape or form, I'll be alone. I've made my peace with it, so thats what I'd recommend. Sounds depressing, but thats real life for you Brother....

2019-04-08T15:48:18+00:00

By embracing it.

lifeontightrope · 2019-04-08T22:50:21+00:00

You meet the real woman not on Tinder, Clubs or Bars. It’s happen naturally if you work on your dreams and when she don’t come to your after the struggle you have enough money to go in a good stripclub .

Title	How do you guys counter the fear of becoming ’the lonely old man’
Author	rStylaaa
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Comments	39
Date	April 8, 2019 1:00 AM UTC (7 years ago)
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