I saw this in the paper. This is what “advice” has come to, don’t better yourself just follow your feelings and tingles. To hell with the man you married, you’re in your “prime” in your 40s. You should just continue to be an overweight gluttonous pig with health problems.

Dear Abby: I have been with my husband for 20 years. I’m 43, and he’s 63. Our sex life has died. He is no longer attracted to me, and he has let me know it.

His love is physical, not emotional. I am not the size 4 I was when he met me. As long as my body looks like he wants it to look, he’s into me. If I’m a size 8 or more, he is not at all into me. I have a hard time understanding how he can love me for how I look.

Long story short, my first love has popped back into my life. I have tested the waters with him, and I’m in over my head with the way he makes me feel. I haven’t slept with him yet, but I have done everything but. The chemistry between us is undeniable.

I know I’m betraying my husband, and I don’t want to hurt him. He is aware of this, and I don’t know what to do. Help! — More than Looks in the South

Dear More: Before this goes any further, make up your mind about what you want and need. If it’s a man who will love you for yourself, not your exterior, then free your husband to find a mate who will be a perpetual size 4. (Has his body changed over the last 20 years?)

Whether things work out between you and your first love is anyone’s guess, but if you need the emotional security of sharing your life with someone who values you for more than your looks, the person to whom you are currently married doesn’t qualify.

P.S. Time is on your side. In another 20 years, your husband will be in his 80s and still trying to find a size 4 who thinks he is sexually attractive, while you’ll still be in your prime.