So I (23,m) had this girl for about 2 years now. We had a long term relationship (300km/180ml) since I was working in a different city. Every weekend I would visit her, which means a total cost of almost 800bucks/month (including gas, car insurance, maintenance) and uncountless hours of lifetime spend in my car. Of course she didn't pay shit, as she was still in college (21y.o.) but since I loved her, I didn't really care.
We spend the weekends at her place, since she has her own apartment, so I basicly moved in with her from the start, but as you can imagine, she would always say it was HER apartment and I basicly have to do what she wants or she would kick me out.
I was extremely blue pilled at that time, ignoring every red flag there was (there were billions), spending all my money and my time on her. She also didn't want me to see my family/friends (who also lived in the same city) since we "never have time for each other" due to our long distance relationship.
The fact that she worked at a local bank made her think she knows about financial stuff, and made me spend all my savings at the stock market. Yes I was pretty stupid.
Ofc we would always argue, because "I was not treating her right blablabla" and at the end of 2018, I had a car crash and completly wrecked my 12.000€ car and therefor lost my job, since I need my car to do my job. Over time I lost 45% of all my savings at the stock market, following her recommandation.
We then had a fight and I finally broke up with her. She then completly lost her mind, saying I'm the perfect man and she would hurt herself if I leave her. Luckily I didn't fell for it and just left.
Today, one week later, I feel like a whole new person, much healthier,much more happier, but still somehow depressed after all that happened. I basicly lost my car, half my savings, and about 800bucks per month for about 2 years just to see her. But I guess thats what they call learning it the hard way...
Long story short, I'm a broke, unemployed carless guy with no savings. All thats left is my gym membership. Any tips you guys can give me in terms of jobs and save money from basicly point zero?
Greetings from Germany
Ps: sorry my for bad english, not my mother tongue
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