tl;dr: tinder is hella easy if your frame's rock hard. My dick wasn't though. Do I have the test levels of a prepubescent girl?

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After a long period (6 months or so) of working on myself and finally getting in a confident, unshakable mental place, I decided it was time to start pursuing pussy again. I'm too busy to daygame and I'm still working on building those essential social circles, so I figured there was no easier, lower investment way to go about it than tinder.

Tinder is easy when you know your value. There's only two things to remember: 1) if she matched? She's interested. Act like it. 2) Text is for logistics ONLY. It took me a week to really get in the groove of it (check post history if you really care to see my missteps) but I learned that since I'm dealing with young college girls (18-21 at best) building comfort is actually pretty essential to working the online hookup game. I stopped trying to get girls to come straight to my place and started setting up coffee dates instead: rapid, virtually no-cost ($3) affairs that, if I was attracted to them, I could always escalate in another location after 15-30 minutes.

I realized that about a week and a half ago. Combined with me spending less time waiting for messages and more time living my life, I've gotten to the place where when I get a number, it's in fewer than 3 messages and a date set in just about three texts more. Maybe it takes three days or so for those few messages to be exchanged, but that's what works. My life comes first. I don't have a bunch of free time, so it's convenient to set dates up one right after another when I do get the chance. I went on one friday with a fattie who looked nothing like her pics, a 7/10 who seemed interested but not enough to escalate (enough to agree to drinks a couple of days later, I expect a ghost) and a 6/10 who started off very hostile but rapidly warmed up. I'm very comfortable talking to anybody. Tinder chicks can't make me lose my stride.

6/10 (call her Laika) wasn't really my type but she had big tits and seemed into it so I didn't cut it short. Kissed while changing venues and made out more shortly thereafter. She seemed like she kept wanting more so I hastened the date to an end to keep that tension there. Set up "celebrate the start o the next semester drinks" at my place for tomorrow night. Afterwards, she was lighting up my phone while I was at work. I responded a bit after I got of and she kept lighting it up. Hey, if she's making it easy, no reason to make it hard. I figured I might as well invite her over to meet my dog after I got off. She was over at my place soon and I set wine out. Kino'd up slowly despite her acting like she wasn't there for fucking. Girl, that very low tank is a strong argument against your words.

Anyways, once she got her clothes off I realized I just wasn't turned on at all. I'm sure she's somebody's type, but that body (slightly on the fatter side, large tits, chunk ass, and "thicc" thighs) isn't mine. She tried to blow me. It wasn't going anywhere so I ate her out and just would not get hard again. Eventually I just sent her back home.

I mean, it's disappointing but I held external frame the whole time. Chalked it up to a shitty work schedule (no lie). Guess she wasn't as hot as I'd hoped. But inside, I'm seriously doubting myself.

If there's a naked chick atop me, why am I not rock hard? I was horny as hell after the date with anticipation--I've been on a 2 month dry spell and was ready to get some. But no, I just was thinking "yeah so there's just a naked person sitting on me big deal." I got turned off after time and while she was eager to help me out however she could, nothing was working. Dysfunction like this hasn't been a problem before, but I've also never had sex nearly stone-cold sober. It is loose pussy? Is my test through the floor? It's hard as hell for me to gain weight or grow facial hair (doesn't shake my frame, but it'd be nice); I've been wondering if I, 20 years old, have the test of an 80 year old. I'm also running sleep deprived as fuck. Writing this at 3am doesn't help.

So there you go. Maybe this ought to be an asktrp post but I thought I should at least share some things I've been learning:

Summary/conclusion:

a) always assume attraction. I've gotten super risque, direct drunk texts from girls that didn't seem interested at first. I wonder what they were really feeling. Listen to actions, not words, right? Online that's super obvious: if they're talking to you and you're not orbiting, they're interested. Don't waste their time.

b) Initiate physical contact IMMEDIATELY on first meeting someone. Just an initial hug works. An initial kiss is better. Sure, it's awkward, but it's way better than trying to stuff that horrible "goodbye kiss" in just to check all the first date boxes. Besides, how do you plan to escalate further (if your schedule allows) if you're not going to do any kino besides soyboy "accidental leg touching" to start out with? Be aggressive.

c) Young chicks really want comfort unless you're a hot 32 year old. 30 year old women know they want sex and with the wall approaching they don't have a ton of time to get it. 20 year old girls think they want sex but they really just want attention. Change their mind later. If you spook them away first (easy to do with the smv of a skinny 20 year old) you won't have that chance. As your smv grows, your reliance on comfort setting should decrease.

d) WHY THE FUCK DOES MY DICK NOT WORK WITHOUT 3 SHOTS??? I used to think I was only attracted to nothing below an 8/10 before I convinced myself that that's not realistic yet. Was I right? Do I start looking into trt? I wasn't going to start on any gear until I'd reached natty limits, about 5 years out from here. But god, I'm thinking about her trying to suck my limp dick and I'm not turned on at all. She wasn't even bad looking.

Desperate cry:

Help me, trpers. Thanks in advance.