So this will be my 5th Thanksgiving (and general holiday season) since the ex decided to fracture the family. Even five years later, the inevitable texts from my grown kids wishing me a happy whatever still makes my eyes sting with tears.

I know there are many, many more men out there like myself, plenty of them lurking or posting here regularly. Just know that you're not alone (possibly only figuratively for some -- I was literally alone at home for a couple of those holidays). Others suffer through this, too. Doesn't make it right, but that's the way things are.

Take care of yourselves in the best way that you know how. If it's alone, so be it -- treat yourself. If you have the option to be with friends or family (a sibling of mine is hosting this year, so I will join them), then consider doing so. If you give no fucks and this is just another day in paradise for you, then I envy you.