Call me stubborn and selfish, but I’m just not interested in all the work and time investment and thought involved to get into a woman’s “favor.” To put energy toward her instead of myself initially. Make her feel special when really she’s just another woman with the same cliches. No woman is that important to me. This is how tinder seems to work for most people, and honestly I just can’t bring myself to attempt to “entertain” any of the women I match with, even though this seems like the only way to get anywhere. I’m not a jester to perform for a woman. It just feels like I’m acting if I do this and I could care less about portraying a falsified version of myself only to have to maintain the facade until it falls away. I’ve picked up chicks on tinder using humor and the works but its so much a waste of time with little reward because they overvalue themselves.

I’d honestly rather just work on myself and raise my SMV to the point where being me is enough and if they don’t like it they can gtfo. Join things that create natural interactions with women, so the flow is there. Everything else just seems kind of desperate to me at this point.

“Game” in some instances, particularly for those with lower SMV, seems to me like an exhausting attempt to circumnavigate flaws without hammering them out, putting them in the back burner while temporarily reaping the benefits on the short term.

To those of you who have significantly raised their SMV through hard work: how’s your game? What have you done to improve it?