I’ve recently been finding it hard recently to escalate on the first date or to successfully transition to a second date. Need some advice/tips.

So recently I’ve been having trouble, on first dates specifically with escalating to something physical and/or transitioning to a second date where they’re eager to meet. I’m not too bothered about not banging on the first night, as would rather build solid plates than rack up one night stands

In terms of background i’m high SMW, i.e look good, dress well, am in shape, good job and decent social skills etc I think in general most girls are reasonably attracted to me, and most of my LTR’s have been solid 8-9’s so maybe i’m a 8.0-8.5 for my age. (Side note, I need to get ripped and I’d be a good 9).

Historically I haven’t had to rely on game so much however i’m always conscious to keep it playful, let them do most of the talking, push/pull and kino etc.

I’m obviously letting myself done on the game side and I suspect part of it is that my strategy is not quite clear, i.e one of my first dates dragged on for a few hours and while the conversation was good, and banter was really at times it becomes exactly that.. a conversation/drinks. I suspect that the excitement/sexual tension dies as this phase is going on for too long.

Should I look to cut my first dates shorter, like 60-90 minutes max (i.e build tension and leave on a high), and/or seek to escalate by offering to go back to mine?

Appreciate constructive feedback.