tl;dr: Envision yourself having an unlimited supply of women who want you. Use that vision to guide your investment in daily interactions with women.

Little Background

Hello everyone. A little background before I begin. Skip to the section titled Abundance Mentality down below if you wish to skip my background.

Was a typical modern beta for most of my life. Many times I was friend zoned. Slowly implemented alpha principles over my time in college, got laid with a few different girls and ultimately landed a LTR with an 8. It was great, but eventually I grew soft in the relationship and became supremely beta. GF started to flake and I became more needy. GF simply cut off our relationship and left me heartbroken at the beginning of 2015.

Trying to fix myself and ensure that never happened again, I found and began swallowing the Red Pill at the beginning of 2015. Started lifting, building my hobbies, focusing on relationships with family/friends, travel, worked on social skills, etc. A year later, I can say I have definitely discovered many truths and am excited to implement everything I have learned even further into the future. However, I am nowhere near where I want my life and TRP to take me, but that is besides the point. I, like you, am still learning.

But now to the point of this post.

Abundance Mentality

Hopefully, everyone here has a basic understanding of abundance mentality and why it is vital if you want to have a good future with women. If not, please study the material from the sidebar and previous posts on the matter.

I used to have a lot of trouble realizing what abundance mentality could do for me. I understood it, and it was logical, but I just didn't see how one could have abundance mentality if one did not have any girls to begin with. That was me. I was single, in monk mode, and didn't have any girls that I frequently talked to. How was I supposed to pretend to have success with women, if I truly didn't? I was in a catch 22.

But then, as time went on, I had breakthroughs. These breakthroughs have pushed my understanding and internalization of TRP even further and I hope it will help you. There was one simple thought that I internalized that helps me achieve

  • abundance mentality

  • avoiding oneitis

  • avoiding overthinking any given situation with a girl

  • gets me excited to continue in my pursuit of my best version.

That thought is a simple question. I ask myself, "If I had 10 (or more) girls at-the-ready, texting/calling/seeing/flirting/fucking me right now, would I worry about my interaction with this one girl?".

Simply put, asking yourself this question will and should always result with the answer of NO. If you had a plethora of women who wanted you, would you worry about any one girl? Of course not. This is the key to understanding abundance mentality and increasing your chances of getting more and better women.

Ask yourself this question anytime you start overthinking any interaction/conversation with any girl. It will save you from becoming needy or desperate, and girls will pick up on this and it helps them see you as more of a man who gets women, wants women, but doesn't need them.

Please offer any feedback/discussion you may have of this in the comments below. I usually respond to all messages.

Thanks brothers.

Lessons Learned:

  • Abundance Mentality is key to success with women.

  • Practice the thought of having many women to take the pressure off your interactions with any one girl in particular.

Edit (14:04 p.m.): Edited to correct formatting/layout issues.